How to please in bed: How to Talk Dirty in Bed


How to Talk Dirty in Bed

IN THE second season of the Netflix comedy-drama Sex Education, Colin, the health teacher—the guy literally responsible for sex education—is terrified to talk dirty to his partner, Emily. She wants him to call her a b*tch, but all polite Colin can muster is “lovely female dog.” Shockingly, it kills the mood.

The show is fiction, but the struggle is real. As a sex coach, I’ve met countless men who say they “just don’t do dirty talk.” And I see where they’re coming from: In the era of #MeToo, they want to be extra careful about respect and consent. Calling a woman a b*tch in the throes of lovemaking can seem, well, contrary to those goals.

But that’s not the case, and if you think that way, you’re missing out. Dirty talk lets you safely explore your deepest, darkest desires—and according to research, there’s a good chance your partner is craving it. In a survey of more than 4,000 Americans, Justin Lehmiller, Ph. D., a research fellow at Indiana University’s Kinsey Institute, found that 93 percent of women had fantasized about their partner talking dirty to them, and 56 percent fantasized about it often. So let’s get it on, guys. I’m here to help you find your way with words.

Ease into dirty talk with sexting.

This way, you can gauge your partner’s reactions virtually, instead of face-to-face. (It’s so much easier to have someone say something isn’t their thing over text than midway through sex.) Start by describing a scene. Remember that what you’re sexting about doesn’t need to reflect what you’re really doing in the moment; you can say you’re naked in bed when you’re actually reading a book in your pajamas. Try these prompts:

😎Describe what you’re wearing.

“I’m in a suit and tie. I look very put together. For now.”

“I’m taking off my belt and thinking about you.”

“I’m in that shirt you really like. The blue one.”

😈Describe what you’re “doing” right now.

“I’m lying in bed naked.”

“I’m touching myself.”

“I’m so hard right now, thinking about you.”

😛Describe what you want to do later.

“I want to strip you naked as soon as I see you.”

“I want to bend you over my desk when you get here.”

“I want to throw you on the bed and have my way with you.”

Here’s what to say during IRL dirty talk.

Now’s the time to ask your partner, “I thought our sexting conversation yesterday was really hot. Did you?” If they agree, ask, “What did you like about it?” Once you have a sense of what they’re into, you’re ready for dirty talk in person. Try these sample scripts to get the ball rolling in the bedroom:

“You’re so sexy. I love it when you’re naked.”

“What do you want me to do to you?”

“I want to feel how wet you are.”

“Be a good little sl*t and spread your legs for me.”

“I can’t wait to slide my c*ck inside you.”

“I can’t wait to see your lips around my d*ck.”

Next, try these dirty talk “Mad Libs.

Fill in the blanks to spin some sexy scripts of your own.

The compliment:

Option 1: I love it when you [VERB] my [ADJECTIVE] [NOUN].

Option 2: You have the most [ADJECTIVE] [NOUN].

Option 3: You’re so good at [VERB+ING] my [NOUN].

The anticipation:

Option 1: I’m going to [VERB] your [NOUN] with my [NOUN].

Option 2: I’m going to [VERB] all over your/in your [NOUN].

Option 3: If you’re not good, I’m going to [VERB] all over your/on your [NOUN].

The request:

Option 1: I want to touch your [NOUN] with my [NOUN].

Option 2: Will you [VERB] your/my [NOUN]?

Option 3: I’ve been naughty/bad. I deserve [FILL IN THE BLANK].

This is your partner’s brain on dirty talk.

The psychology of dirty talk “hasn’t received a ton of study,” says Lehmiller. But some studies have reported that erotic stimuli (e. g., dirty talk) fire up the hypothalamus, a region of the brain that influences sexual behavior. That tracks with Lehmiller’s findings. “I [asked] whether people had fantasies about being called a sl*t or b*tch and found that this was quite popular,” he says. He found that 40 percent of women had fantasized about being called a demeaning name during sex.

One possible reason is that degrading language is considered taboo and therefore activates the brain’s fear responses in the amygdala—which also controls excitement and pleasure. “Another part of the explanation is that wanting to be called demeaning names is a form of masochism—the act of deriving pleasure from pain,” Lehmiller explains.

What’s off-limits when it comes to dirty talk?

That being said, some words or phrases might be out of bounds for you or your partner, and it’s both of your jobs to know what they are. Tell her, “I love when you talk dirty. Can you call me [insert name here] in bed instead of Daddy? That would really do it for me. ” She might reply, “It’s no big deal, but when you call me a b*tch, it’s not really a turn-on for me. I would love it if you called me a sl*t instead.”

Dirty words for body parts (p*ssy, c*ck, d*ck, t*ts, etc.) are also worth discussing; there’s nothing inherently wrong with any of them, but some people have strong reactions to one over another.

Here’s where to get some extra dirty talk inspiration.

Reading erotica or listening to audio porn will expand your dirty-talk repertoire. It may also turn you on! “The immersive nature of listening to a real voice talk specifically and directly to you in a highly sexual manner is intensely exciting,” says Anna Richards, founder of Frolicme, an independent, ethical platform publishing films, erotic stories, and audio porn.

For reading:

The Best Women’s Erotica, Volume 4, edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel

Couples, by John Updike

Aqua Erotica: 18 Erotic Stories for a Steamy Bath, by Mary Anne Mohanraj

The Swimming-Pool Library, by Alan Hollinghurst

Fifty Shades of Grey, by E L James

Best Women’s Erotica of the Year, Volume 4

Couples: A Novel

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Aqua Erotica: 18 Stories for a Steamy Bath

Broadway Books


The Swimming-Pool Library – (Vintage International) by Alan Hollinghurst (Paperback)

Fifty Shades of Grey: Book One of the Fifty Shades Trilogy

Want more? Goodreads has an “Erotica for Men” reading list with more than 100 books.

For listening:

Dipsea: Basically the Headspace of porn. It offers bite-sized erotic stories to get your motor going.

Frolicme: A one-stop shop for original, ethically made videos, erotic stories, and audio porn.

Some suggestions for erotic listening: Play it at the gym for ideas, turn it on while you’re having sex, or send it to a partner as a way to stoke their imagination.

This story originally appeared in the October 2020 issue of Men’s Health.

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14 Expert Tips for Clitoral Stimulation

When it comes to making a person with a vulva orgasm, most folks need more than plain old penetration. Your penis is great and all, but only a quarter of vulva owners routinely come during vaginal intercourse—which means a lot of people need some form of clitoral stimulation in order to climax.

Packed with nerve endings, the clitoris is one of the most sensitive erogenous zones. It has around 8,000 nerve endings, which is double the number in a penis, FYI. So what can you do to give your partner a mind-blowing clitoral orgasm? Well, for starters, make sure you know where to find the clitoris: at the top of the vulva, just under the spot where the inner labia meet. The clitoris also extends up to 5 inches inside the body—in fact, experts are beginning to recognize that the so-called “G-spot” is linked to the clit—but for today, we’ll focus on that rosebud-shaped spot at the apex of the labia.

And now, to stimulate the clitoris. Sixty-seven percent of women who took part in an Indiana University study prefer stimulation in or around the clitoris, not directly on it. If you’re not sure what your partner prefers, remember this universal piece of advice: ask them!

Surprise your partner tonight with one—or all—of these clitoral stimulation tricks, using not just your tongue, but also your lips, fingers, and toys. And don’t forget: there are a number of sex positions where you can reach around and stimulate your partner’s clit with your fingers or a vibrator during penetration. There’s no reason why penetration and clit stimulation have to be separate; the two can (and should!) exist in perfect harmony.

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Suck and Nibble

Instead of just licking her, use your lips and tongue to suck on her clit.

“The entire vulva consists of sensitive nerve fibers,” says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. “So being able to suck on the glans or the head of the clit and lightly nibble on her inner and outer labia, or suck a little on labia, will stimulate the nerve fibers.”

The sucking will also lead to increased vasocongestion, or more blood flow, to the vulva and the clitoris—”like a little vacuum pump,” Kerner says.

2. Draw circles

In that Indiana University study of 1,055 women, 3 out of 4 women said they love it when you trace little circles on or around the clit. You can use your tongue, your finger, or two fingers—or all of the above.

Sofiya Alexandra, co-host of Private Parts Unknown, a podcast exploring love and sexuality, calls this motion “rock around the clock.” She notes that some women prefer the six o’clock to midnight aka “the downtown express,” which is when you trace from the bottom of the clit to the top under the hood. “I’ve found that light pressure from six o’clock to midnight with the tip of a tongue can cause leg-shaking pleasure,” she says.

3. Add a pulse

There’s a reason why so many vibrators come with pulsation patterns: The clitoris typically loves to be stimulated with a variety of rhythms, explains, Courtney Kocak, who also hosts Private Parts Unknown. “So instead of just rubbing up on the clit with zero cadence or intention, add a gentle pulse to your movements,” she says. “If you need some inspiration, think of those morse-code operators in the old war movies and focus on providing the little nub below the clitoral hood with gentle waves of pressure.”

4. Hinting

While you’re drawing those circles, try “hinting”—focusing on the area near her clitoris, and only occasionally coming in for a direct touch. In that same Indiana University survey — which was used to create the website OMGYES—7 out of 10 women said they were into this technique.

“Use one finger flicking all around the clitoris, but not directly on it,” says Ava Cadell, Ph. D., author and founder of “To bring your partner to orgasm, once she is at the height of pleasure, you’ll want to maintain a steady consistent stroke.”

5. Pick a Side

When it comes to clitoral stimulation, 4 out of 10 women have a preferred side, the same survey found. Ask her if there’s a side she likes better—and if she’s not sure, experiment on both.

6. Use your imagination.

When you’re flicking your tongue over her clitoris, imagine you are painting a fence from top to bottom, says Cadell, “alternating between up and down.” Next, “go into the windshield wiper move of using your tongue to go side-to-side.”

7. Don’t Forget the Shaft

While a lot of attention is spent on the the tip of the clitoris—the part located at the top of the vulva—it also has two “legs” that extend up to five inches inside the body, known as the “shaft.”

“Slide your fingers to either side of her clitoral shaft,” Dr. Cadell explains. “Pull and push the clitoral hood across the clitoris and move in circles, diagonals, and spontaneous un-choreographed fashions so as to stay unpredictable.

8. Play the Harmonica

Once your partner is in the midst of an orgasm, add some oral vibration to her experience.

“Make your lips into an O and take her clitoris in your mouth,” Cadell suggests. “Then make humming sounds as you suck on her clit, as if you are playing a harmonica, so that she can feel the warm, wet vibrations.”

9. Bring on the Waterworks

We’re not talking about vaginal ejaculation or golden showers here. Water play is one of the first methods many women use to get off when they start masturbating at an early age in the privacy of their bath time.

“Water play is important,” Cadell says. “When using a handheld shower head, let the water spray over her body in between her legs, then move it closer to her clitoris, moving the water stream back and forth.”

10. The Penis Massage

If you’re hard, try using your erect penis to rub up against her clit.

“This is good if you are laying side-by-side facing each other . .. or even on your knees above her, holding the tip of your penis in your hand to massage and rub her clit,” Kerner says. “She can also grab your penis and use it like she would a sex toy on her clit.”

11. Speaking of sex toys…


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Kerner recommends the We-Vibe 4 Plus as the best couples vibrator for clitoral action. With its U-shape, one end is inserted into her vagina, and the other end rests on her clit. If she wears it during intercourse, you can feel the vibration as well. And with the mobile app, you can stimulate her without even being in the same room. Give her a clitoral orgasm while you’re away on a business trip, halfway around the world.

12. Lip Service

If she’s not into direct clitoral contact, try stimulating her inner labia.

“Touching or sucking her inner lips actually pulls on the clitoris, and it’s really useful for women whose clitoris gets too sensitive,” says Laurie Mintz, Ph. D., author of A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex.

13. Arousal Oils

There’s an array of arousal oils and balms designed to bring tingling or heating sensation to her clit. ON Natural Arousal Oil for Her is a popular choice.

“Go slowly with trying these out,” Mintz advises. “Some women are too sensitive, and the sensation can be too intense.”

14. Switch up the setting

Want an all-access oral sex experience? Shanna Katz, M.Ed., a board-certified sexologist and author of Oral Sex That Will Blow Her Mind, previously gave Men’s Health this tip:

Have her sit on a countertop, a sturdy table, or a laundry machine; if you kneel on the ground in front of her, you’ll be able to your lips, tongue, and hands as much as you want. Plus, she’ll be able to get a good look at you between her legs.

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10 Best Vibrator Types and How to Use Each Kind: Experts Explain

Vibrators are magical, truly. They are the most reliable way to give someone with a clitoris an orgasm. Well, not counting oral sex. But did you know that vibrators are not just for vulvas? Nope. Anyone with any body part can use a vibrator. There are even toys designed specifically for penis-owners. No more being left out of the fun!

Some folks who are less well-versed in the topic of sex toys may not be aware of just how many different kinds of sex toys there are out there. In a nutshell: It’s a f*cking lot. Vibrators alone have 10 specific categories, all used to distinguish their specific characteristics and uses. This can be a bit overwhelming. So, we broke all the vibrator types down for you (and added some expert recommendations) to make your sex toy navigation process a little less daunting. Here are 10 kinds of vibrators you should know about.

1. Bullet and finger vibrators

Bullet and finger vibrators are basically two names for the same type of vibrator. They’re used interchangeably by most people, so we decided to put them together for clarity. Bullet vibrators, such as the Pico Bongo Ipo 2 and Femme Funn Versa P, are small vibrators that are used to stimulate the clitoris.

These “vibrators are great for targeting sensation where you want it and they’re great at reaching erogenous zones that are hard-to-reach during parter play,” says Taylor Sparks, an erotic educator and founder of Organic Loven.

There is one difference we should point out: some of these vibrators can actually be warm ON the fingers (like the Unbound Palma or Fin from Dame products), thus giving them a bit of a twist on the classic bullet and essentially turning your hand into a vibrator. This is pretty convenient when you’re in the middle of a passionate throw down.

A bullet vibrator.

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2. Gender neutral vibrators

Gender is a social construct and it’s about time to move on from making toys that are strictly “female-centric” or “male-cetric.” More and more companies are embracing toys that can be used by all genders without people feeling uncomfortable about it.

Maude’s simple personal massager is a great example of a gender neutral vibrator. It can be used on clitorises, vulvas, or penises. I also really love the Crescendo from MysteryVibe. The toy is super versatile and bendy. So, no matter the stimulation you want, you can make it happen.

For anal play, check out this dildo from Fun Factory. It “works great for vaginas and butts,” says Kenneth Play, It forms to the shape you want, so it’s great for anal. The small one is especially good for beginner butts of any gender,” says Kenneth Play, sex educator and creator of the Sex Hacker Pro Series.

3. Vibrating cock rings

Cock rings are a lot of fun for everyone. They work by restricting blood flow to the penis, helping with longer erections and increased pleasure. (They can also be used on dildos!)

Vibrating cock-rings combine all of these lovely benefits with even more stimulation. Play says to look to the Germans for all your needs. “Since forever, every cock ring has consistently failed to reach the clitoris,” Play says. “The Fun Factory made the NOS, which is perfectly designed for clit stim.”

Another of my personal favorites? The Tenga SVR. It’s fantastic for the cow-person position and will blast you off into outer space.

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4. Vibrating prostate toys

The prostate is a walnut-shaped gland that sits just inside the anus. And it is extremely pleasurable for many prostate owners when stimulated. Luckily, there are toys designed for exactly this purpose. Remember, any toys you put inside your butt need to be designed specifically for that purpose—meaning, they need a flared base or ergonomic shape to stay put.

Sparks recommends the Fun Factory Duke Prostate Vibrator because “this amazing prostate vibrator is shaped so that it also stimulates the perineum at the same time for double the pleasure.” Interested in something a little more “high-tech” looking? Look no further than the Nexus FORTIS Aluminum Vibrator. “This beautiful aluminum prostate vibrator can also be used in temperature play in addition to its 6 different vibration modes,” Sparks says.

Speaking of temperature play, one of my brand-new favs? The dual massager from Lora DiCarlo. It self-heats (yes, it legit heats up) for even more delicious sensation. It’s next-level pleasure for anal lovers.

A vibrating prostate massager.

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G-spot wands

G-spot wands are toys designed specifically for the G-spot. The “G-spot” is actually more of an area and includes the internal back-end of the clitoris, the urethral sponge, the Skene’s glands (and probably more). “The G-spot for many vulva-owners is where you get that toe-curling, even squirting, effect, and toys that target that zone are great for those who love intensified internal stimulation,” Sparks says.

Still, others may find it kind of “meh.” Everyone is different. If you or your partner like internal stimulation, I recommend combining a G-spot wand internally while giving oral sex to the external clitoris. It can be very intense. Sparks recommends the Onda by Lora DiCarlo. “The newest in sex tech using micro-robotics, the Onda is made to simulate the feeling of fingers stroking the g-spot offering, long and short strokes and 4 different positions.” Damn, girl.

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Rabbit vibrators

Dual stimulation toys, usually referred to as “rabbits,” are toys that combine internal stimulation of the G-spot area with external stimulation of the clitoris. They have a shaft to insert and a small curved attachment at the base to stimulate the external clitoral glans. Sometimes the attachment has two little “ears,” hence the ”rabbit” nickname.

My go-to favorite of the moment is the Jimmy Jane Glo, a self-heating rabbit that offers up mind blowing orgasms and relaxes the entire pelvic floor. Muscle relaxation AND orgasms, yes f*cking please.

Sparks recommends the Happy Rabbit Slimline Curve because it’s “perfect for beginners as it is slim, curved to stimulate the g-spot, [and offers] multiple vibrations with clitoral stimulation.”

Rabbit vibrators.

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7. Wand massagers

Wand massagers are the GOAT. They are long toys with a large “head” that delivers vibration. They are amazing at delivering orgasms. Their biggest pull? Their sheer power.

They are rumbly toys that can be cranked up to crazy levels for those who like a workhorse in their side drawer. “Wand massagers are a fantastic, versatile accessory for both partnered and solo play; wands easily allow you to direct gentle to intense sensations to where you want it most,” Sparks says.

Play suggests sticking with the classic Magic Wand. It’s a tried and true must-have. For me, there is no wand on the market better than the Le Wand massager. You can take that to the bank.

These toys are amazing for penises too. Specifically when focused on the head. If you or your partner has a foreskin, utilize it for a little buffer. If not, try using a condom if the stimulation is too intense. You can have full on orgasms from it. I’ve literally seen it with my own two eyes.

Really, all vibrators can be used on penises. There is no rule book that decrees you can’t be creative.

A wand massager.

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8. Vibrating anal beads

“Anal beads are fantastic for exploring different sensations and types of anal play,” Sparks explains. “Not everyone wants something phallus-thick in their backdoor, and vibration adds a whole new dimension to the pleasure possibilities.”

These toys have a lot of different benefits; they’re fantastic for prostate play, but can be enjoyed by anyone with anus. The opening to the anus is where many of the nerves are clustered. It’s a highly pleasurable area. Anal beads are designed to be pulled out one by one when you’re close to orgasm in order to increase intensity.

For beginners, check out the Petite Sensations Pearls String. They are “small vibrating beads which are perfect for beginners, completely waterproof,” Sparks says. Shower play, anyone?

Another great choice are the FORTO Vibrating Anal Beads. These toys are also completely waterproof and have twenty vibration modes, and even a memory function, meaning they’ll be equipped to learn what you like and return to that setting on their own. We’re here for it.

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9. Clit-sucking vibrators

Clitoris-sucking vibrators have been popping off in recent years. They use the combination of air and suction to surround the clitoris, while never actually touching it, in order to simulate oral sex. They’re a total revolution. People have reported being able to orgasm in as little as one minute. That’s pretty wild.

“I love this is a super adorable suction vibrator [from Emojibator] because it’s great for travel, and easy to introduce to a partner since it’s so cute,” Play says. Some other great options are the Lelo Sona Cruise, the Womanizer Liberty, or the Satisfyer Pro 2.

They can be used on penis heads, nipples, anywhere, really—except the anus. That’s one of the fun things about sex toys, they’re all very versatile and have the ability to be used in a variety of different ways. All it takes is a little curiosity.

A clit-sucking vibrator.

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10. Clitoral-targeted toys that don’t even vibrate (like, what?)

These clit toys are brand new on the market and are changing the game. They are pin-pointed toys that don’t (usually) vibrate at all. They use rapid movement and rotation in order to deliver a completely unique experience. Zumio (my personal favorite line of toys these days) uses the power of rotation to circle whichever area you use it on. “The Zumio is one of the most powerful toys I’ve ever used. It’s like concentrating the power of the sun into a flame the size of a candle,” says Kenneth Play, a Sex-Hacker and Educator.

The best part? Your clitoris rarely gets over-stimulated, making it perfect for anyone extra sensitive. Hello, multiple orgasms!

There are also toys that have a little tongue-like contraption on the end, like this one from Bellesa. They’re designed to simulate oral sex by bringing the tongue-licking right to the toy. You just pop it over the clit, turn it on, and you’re good to go.

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Where to Touch a Man in Bed

Where exactly should you touch a man in bed? While you could argue that any zone on a dude’s body could be an erogenous zone if treated appropriately, there is evidence that some specific areas are more worth paying attention to than others when it comes to pleasure. Whether it’s because these areas are chock-full of nerve-endings (like your ears for example — who knew?!) others are on here simply because they’re so often easily overlooked (when was the last time you ran your fingers through your guy’s beard?)

Of course, it’s easy to forget that so many different body parts can be erogenous zones, especially when in the heat of the moment undressing your partner. Add in if you’ve been together a while, know what works for you both, and get into the same routine of making-out-then-straight-to-sex before bed, and you might be surprised how little these e-zones actually get play. Show your partner some extra love by focusing on these areas next time to go truly above and beyond.

Here are 38 expert-approved hot spots and erogenous zones worth spending a few extra moments with next time you’re down and dirty with a naked man. To make things even easier (because how workable is “Ears: This can be hot.”?) we’ve also paired each body part with some easy, non-awkward ways to incorporate these areas into your next roll in the hay.

1. The Foreskin

You might think that most American guys are circumcised and therefore don’t have any foreskin, but according to a 2010 CDC study based on stats from 2007, 55.4% of newborn babies with penises left the hospital circumcised, which means the number of uncircumcised dudes is probably higher than you’d think. For those who do have their foreskin, this amounts to around 15 square inches (I KNOW RIGHT?) of bonus e-zone. “The foreskin is packed with nerve endings and stimulating the thin skin in this area lends a highly pleasurable experience,” says Mia Sabat, sex therapist at Emjoy. There’s also sensitivity on both the outside and inside surfaces of the foreskin, explains Georganne Chapin, Executive Director, Intact America.

Try this: Use a hand to move the foreskin up and down over the head of the penis itself, suggests Sabat. During oral, you can also focus on it by using a combo of your hand, tongue, and lips. Because of the sensitivity on both outside and inside of the foreskin, a rolling motion on the foreskin during sex can also be quite pleasurable, Chapin adds.

2. Lower Stomach

      Another nerve-filled area is the lower stomach, says Sabat, which becomes more and more concentrated closer to the genital area. Give the area right below their belly button but above their pubic bone or genitals some extra love to show them your affection and attention.

      Try this: Teasing and stimulating this area can feel super pleasurable for dudes through kissing, gentle biting, and temperature play, says Sabat. You can even experiment with some light pressure play, “but be warned: it’s best to try [pressure play] with an empty bladder,” Sabat adds. FAIR.

      3. Inner Arms

          The thin, soft skin of the inner arms makes this area ultra-sensitive, according to Sabat. Think about it, how often do you really give attention to your inner arms?

          Try this: While most of these erogenous zones can be stimulated through kissing or your tongue, the light, controlled movement of your fingers is especially great for inner arms. Stroke the skin from just inside their inner shoulder and move gently down to the inner elbow, says Sabat. If you and your partner are both into BDSM and have spoken about trying it out, pulling this move when your partner has his arms tied up (either in a fixed T-shape or just with their wrists above their head), can be really sexy too, Sabat adds.

          4. Inner Wrist

              Moving down the arm, stimulating the sensitive, thin skin of the inner wrist can also be incredibly pleasurable for your partner. Not only that, Sabat adds, but feeling your partner’s heart rate increasing as you get closer to their pulse point can also be a turn-on and empowering.

              Try this: The inner wrist is a great erogenous zone you can stimulate while both of you are in public (in a non-gross) way. Simply stroking your partner here or kissing their inner wrist here is a great way to show that you’re feeling sensual, Sabat says, and it’s just a pretty sweet move overall.

              5. Palm of Their Hands and Fingertips

                  Fun fact: your hands are actually some of the most sensitive and responsive areas of the body, says Sabat. This area is full of nerve-endings — a fact you probably already know if you’ve ever been bodied by a teensy paper-cut that somehow feels like someone cut your whole finger off.

                  Try this: “Take your partner’s palm in your hand and gently trace along the edges and lines of their palm with your fingertips,” says Sabat. Then, turn it up, by “kissing their palms and fingertips, or gently taking one finger into your mouth to suck, swirling your tongue around their finger and moving your lips along its length.”

                  6. Behind the Knee

                      Not only is this both thinner, sensitive skin, it’s also nerve-packed, says Sabat. It also gets points for being highly overlooked, because truly, have you ever considered paying extra attention to the under-knee area? I know I haven’t.

                      Try this: The area behind the knee can be a super versatile erogenous zone as it can be teased without being gross in public, but also focused on during sex when y’know, you’re back in private. Sabat says to try gently running your fingers over the area, or engaging with this bodily real estate during penetrative sex with touching, stroking, or dialing the intensity up a bit by applying pressure.

                      7. Anus

                          While you might’ve heard about the prostate being woza-levels of pleasurable for those with penises, even without the prostate, backdoor play can still be something pleasurable you engage in with your guy. There are tons of nerve endings in the anal region, says Sabat, and once you and your guy have discussed and okay-ed anal play on the table with ongoing consent, it can be a really hot experience for you both.

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                          Remember, as with all things butt play, the importance of lube, patience, and ongoing consent cannot be stressed enough. The anus doesn’t self-lubricate like a vagina, so lots of lube is a NEED for this situation.

                          Try this: For those who want to explore anal play but aren’t sure if they want to give or receive anal penetration quite yet, don’t worry, you can absolutely stimulate the anus without penetration. Sabat recommends starting with massaging your partner’s buttocks: “Stroke the entire area and place your hands on the folds where the legs and buttocks meet, then slide your fingers across the fold from the inner thigh to the outer area, before starting to caress the outside of the anus. ” After that, if you and your partner have spoken about anal penetration as something you both want to do, then that’s when you can start thinking about moving towards penetration, with either your (well-lubed!) finger or toy.

                          8. Thigh

                              “Some of the best erogenous zones are places we can innocently caress in everyday life, and the thighs are an excellent example,” says Sabat. Thighs are similar to the groin or inner thigh, but much less intimate, so you can interact with the area in public without feeling gross.

                              Try this: Sabat recommends light touch or squeezing and gently massaging the area while sitting next to your partner. Specifically zone in on the space between their knee and halfway up the thigh, Sabat says, as this teasing movement will make them want more. When you are in private, you can also of course, cover this area with gentle licks, kisses, and even small bites (if that’s something you’re both into!)

                              9. Groin

                                  “Similar to the inner thighs, this region is so close to the genitals that having your partner tease this area can be equally frustrating and satisfying,” explains Sabat. The groin, aka where your abdomen transitions into the lower body and legs, is packed with nerve endings, and it just gets bonus points for being adjacent to the genitals.

                                  Try this: To really tease your partner, have them keep their underwear on while you run your fingers over the area slowly, before eventually moving to touch their skin, says Sabat. Once undressed, she suggests kissing and caressing the area, and especially doing so if you are giving oral, as this can make things even more intimate.

                                  10. Ears

                                  Ears are hyper sensitive to touch as there are tons of sensation receptors along the inside and outside of the ear, says Luna Matatas, sex and pleasure educator.

                                  Try this: Suck the top part of his ear and then run your tongue along the inside, says Matatas. Or you can try nibbling on his earlobe. The beauty of ear play is that when you’re that up close and personal, your hands are also free to roam the rest of his bod.

                                  11. Ribs

                                  “Anywhere on the body that has thinner skin is going to have more sensitivity to sensation and more possibility of blood flow during arousal,” Matatas explains.

                                  Try this: In case your guy is ticklish, test the area out first with slow, teasing touch. Matatas recommends slowly dragging your hands and fingers down the sides of their body or leaving a little breadcrumb trail of kisses or light nibbles on their ribs.

                                  12. Armpits

                                  Another sensitive spot that can also be ticklish, armpits are often overlooked but can still be super pleasurable for people. While the pits don’t have any special nerve endings, it can still be quite intimate because of its under-serviced status as an erogenous zone, says Matatas.

                                  Try this: Go for some sucking, licking, or light, teasing touch says Matatas. Armpits can also be mutually beneficial spots to pay attention to during sex since they secrete scent — great for feeling primal when you’re getting hot and heavy.

                                  13. Fingers

                                  What better place to start than the receptor points for experiencing touch? Just because you use them and they’re well, there, in every sex act doesn’t mean they can’t benefit from having the spotlight turned onto them as well.

                                  Try this: Matatas suggests massaging their fingers (because how great is that massage part during a manicure, right?), kissing your partner’s finger pads gently, dragging your teeth along the side of them lightly, or putting them in your mouth and dragging them out slowly. All the better if you turn up the eye contact during the last part.

                                  14. The Base of the Shaft

                                  The penis actually extends further into the body than you might see at first glance, adds Matatas, which means it’s a great place to play with pressure and other ways of turning up the blood flow.

                                  Try this: Using your fingers, find the base of the penis and explore with pressure. “At the base of the penis, explore putting pressure around the shaft with your index finger and thumb in an ‘ok’ symbol, pushing back towards the body,” says Matatas. While your fingers are getting to work, use your other free hand or mouth to stimulate the head of his penis.

                                  15. His Beard

                                  If your dude has facial hair, you can really work it to your advantage. Think about how sexy it feels when someone runs their fingers through your hair, says Kate W., co-founder of Pleasure Better. “For some reason,” she adds, “we never think about his beard being the same way.” Shame, isn’t it?

                                  Try this: Kate says to start at the base of his neck and trace your fingers up slowly through his beard, eventually running over his scalp. This trick feels so good that it’s not long before his fingers are eventually entangled in your hair as well.

                                  16. The Back of Their Neck

                                  This is a hot spot because of the many nerve endings there, explains sex expert Antonia Hall. It’ll also give you some “under-utilized hot spot” points because it’s often overlooked when it comes to getting it on.

                                  Try this: Hall recommends licking a trail just below his hairline, down his neck, and along the sides. You can also start with slow, sensual kisses, eventually easing your tongue to turn up any sensitivity.

                                  17. His Hair

                                  You know how good it feels when someone plays with your hair? Same thing for men, gals. “Men have nerve endings on their scalp that are attached to the rest of their body, and when their hair is gently pulled when they are kissed or held, it sends stimulation to the rest of their body,” says Tammy Nelson, PhD, sex and relationship therapist and independent consultant for Ashley Madison.


                                  Try this: While kissing, try running the tips of your fingers through his hair, over his scalp gently, then a bit harder with a tug. “If he reacts with small sounds and pleasure moans, pull harder, then let go before he wants you to,” says Nelson. This playful tease with drive him legit cray.

                                  18. His Toes

                                  Shrimpin’ anyone? Yes, this is what it’s called when you suck on your partner’s toes (or they do to you. ) “This is so erotic because feet are a nonconventional hotbed of sensation just waiting for some stimulation,” says sexologist Megan Stubbs.

                                  Try this: During sexy foreplay, move your kisses teasingly down his body until you’re all the way down at his feet. “Suck on your partner’s toes—or even lick the bottom of their foot arch,” says Stubbs. Just maybe have him take a shower before, mmk?

                                  19. The Feet in General

                                  Besides just feeling good, there’s a reason why reflexology massages are so popular. “There are so many nerve endings in the feet,” says sex therapist Rhoda Lipscomb, PhD—which makes for a great area to stimulate.

                                  Try this: Don’t worry, you don’t have to be a foot fetishist to ace this. “Start by using some massage oil and massaging his feet—especially the arch of the foot,” says Lipscomb. If you want to add some tongue and kisses to the mix, do it. Then switch positions and make it your turn.

                                  20. The Prostate

                                  Introducing: The most underrated part of a man’s body. “The prostate gland is a huge erogenous zone in men. If properly stimulated, this can bring intense pleasure to your man,” says Lipscomb. Ladies, this is basically the man’s G-spot and is extra sensitive.

                                  Try this: Run a lubricated finger around his anus to begin. This stimulation by itself may be enough for him, but if he’s down for more, once the muscles have had a chance to relax, insert your index finger about two inches inside—where you should be able to feel his prostate. “Bend your finger up toward his abdomen and stroke it,” says Lipscomb.

                                  21. His Imagination

                                  Okay, so maybe this isn’t a tangible thing you can touch–but in my defense, you can definitely still stimulate this part of him. “Let him have some time to consider your touch before your fingers arrive on his skin,” says Nelson. The ultimate tease.

                                  Try this: “Whisper in his ear softly and tell him all the things you are going to do to him without touching a hair on his body,” says Nelson. No idea WTF to say? Just pretend like you’re sexting and say those things to him IRL.

                                  22. His Butt Cheek

                                  Ah, the “sweet spot” of the bod. “He’s going to be extra sensitive here,” says Good Vibrations staff sexologist Carol Queen, PhD. “Striking his butt cheek, even lightly, tends to stimulate the whole area.” Think of it like a slow vibration flowing through his insides.

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                                  Try this: If your boy is open to a little spank-y play, this is great to do while he’s on top of you in any variation of missionary. Squeeze his booty when he’s hitting just the right spot, or give him a quick spank if you’re both into it. “Don’t be afraid to grab or stroke there,” says Queen.

                                  23. The Philtrum

                                  Dr. Jess O’Reilly, sexologist, explains that the philtrum, or small groove above your lips, has long been considered an erogenous zone. In fact, she explains, the word itself, “philtrum,” translates from the Latin word for “love potion.”

                                  Try this: To stimulate his philtrum, O’Reilly suggests planting a very soft kiss on this area, right before running your tongue down the groove to meet his upper lip.

                                  24. The Raphe

                                  O’Reilly explains that the raphe is the dividing line that runs across the the middle of his genitalia from the anus to the tip of his penis, down over the perineum, scrotum, and shaft.

                                  Try this: O’Reilly suggests using your tongue to trace over the line and teasing him into your mouth. To take things a step further, she suggests using a lubed up bullet vibrator like the We-Vibe Tango, to trace along the line as well, while you breathe, lick, and suck in conjunction with the vibrator.

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                                  25. Inner Thigh

                                  Eboni Harris, a relationship therapist, says that since the inner thigh is so close to the penis, “even without the sensation of touch, just being in that area is sure to get him anticipating what’s next.”

                                  Try this: Harris suggests taking your time to kiss and lick his inner thigh before going to touch his penis when performing oral. Tease him and experiment with your lips. You can go from light fluttering kisses to harder sucking.

                                  26. Bottom Lips

                                  Harris says that lips in general are one of the most sensitive parts of the body. Take your time while kissing—there’s a reason why nibbling and variation in pressure can drive you over the edge when done correctly.

                                  Try this: Harris suggests nibbling their bottom lips and possibly even going for a harder bite (if they seem receptive to it). “The sensations of going from a tender kiss to some teeth will surprise your man and excite his brain.”

                                  27. Those V-Lines

                                  Besides being hot and fun for you to look at, the V-zone is a hot bed of pleasure for your partner, as clinical sexologist and psychotherapist Kristie Overstreet explains. Not only is it a turn-on that he gets front-row tickets to watch you stimulate him, but it’s an easy pit stop to make on the way to bone-town.

                                  Try this: Have him lay on his back while you straddle him and give him what he really wants: a view of your scalp as you make your way down on him. Starting from his belly button, use your fingers and nails to trace a line down from his happy trail stopping before you hit total groin. Then retrace your steps, but use your tongue to trace a V shape from his hips to right above his penis. Draw it out and really tease him until he can’t take it any longer.

                                  28. The Outside of His Lower Lip

                                  You know that spot between your lower lip and your chin where you usually break out? Yeah, the one that one hair always sprouts out of? That’s an erogenous zone! Lou Paget, author of The Big O and a certified sex educator, says that they’ve discovered that this tiny, delicate curve is actually packed with extrasensitive nerve receptors.

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                                  Try this: Suck his lower lip into your mouth the next time you’re making out and use the tip of your tongue to stroke this under-lip area. “That motion stimulates the whole erogenous zone in a teasing way, which will put him on the erotic edge,” says Paget. “And by keeping his lower lip inside yours, you magnify the sensation. It’ll feel as if electric currents are shooting from his mouth straight to his member.”

                                  29. The Front of His Neck

                                  I bet you’ve never thought about your dude’s Adam’s apple as an erogenous zone, huh? If you have, congrats, you should probably be writing this instead of me. But for the normies out there, the thought behind this stems from how the thyroid (just below the Adam’s apple) is “closely linked to the sex organs, according to ancient Chinese medicine,” according to reflexologist Mantak Chia, author of Sexual Reflexology.

                                  Try this: Give him a throat job—no, not like that, (you can re-hinge your jaw now.) Have him lie on his back and literally just suck his Adam’s apple. Keep your tongue flat and light, not too much pressure! Massage the area with wide circular motions to ensure you’re hitting that T-spot of the thyroid.

                                  30. His Nipples

                                  While male nipples are basically the same as female nipples, they might even be more sensitive than yours since guys aren’t used to having them touched so often. “For a lot of men, their nipples are uncharted territory—an erogenous zone they haven’t experimented with,” explains Patti Britton, PhD, a Los Angeles–based clinical sexologist and author of the The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Sensual Massage. Touch them, however, and you’ll send shock waves of pleasure radiating through him, she adds.

                                  Try this: Britton suggests having him lie on his back and slowly licking from his areola inward, like an ice-cream cone but never touching tongue to nip. Get closer and closer until you flick his nipple with your tongue and then gently bite it. Britton says, “Men love when you slowly build up the pressure like that, so don’t be afraid to nip him harder than you would like to be.” If you wanna be really extra, you can suck on an ice cube beforehand for more sensation.

                                  31. The Dip Under His Ankle

                                  Yes, the spot that always gets fucked up when you wear new shoes! Between your guy’s heel and ankle there’s a fingertip-size pressure point that holds “enormous passion potential,” according to Laura Norman, author of Feet First. “This spot is linked to the sex organs” and “pressing it releases energy, producing feelings of pleasure.”

                                  Try this: While in reverse-cowgirl, grab his feet and pulse each pressure point in rhythm with your thrusts. Try this right before he’s about to climax to really blow his mind.

                                  32. His Perineum

                                  While he’s shy at first about going under his family jewels, the perineum is well worth the trip. This patch of skin is located between his balls and his anus and is right above his prostate gland—an organ with “major orgasmic power.” Tracey Cox, author of Supersex, says a few soft strokes here will drive him to the brink.

                                  Try this: Before he enters you in missionary, reach between his legs and grab his penis. Then press your knuckles gently into this spot and start massaging. Right as he’s about to orgasm, push your knuckles a little deeper to extend the fireworks.

                                  33. His Shaft

                                  The male sex organ…where to start? It’s there. Everyone knows this is a huge part of sex. And while you may have mastered the typical handy and blow job, try to spice things up with something totally uncharted like a reverse finger job.

                                  Try this: Make two tight rings around his penis with your thumb and index finger (like you’re doing the okay hand symbol 👌), stacking them one on top of the other in the middle of his shaft. Twist the rings in opposite directions moving from middle to the top and base of his shaft at the same time. Cox calls this a “torrid twist” the the typical one-handed uppy-downy handy. Remember to use lube though!

                                  34. The Head of His Penis

                                  As the most sensitive part of the penis, the head can be a fickle art to master. Barbara Keesling, PhD, and author of The Good Girl’s Guide to Bad Girl Sex, says it can be tricky to get the right level of pressure so you send him soaring into ecstasy but without recoiling in sensory overload.

                                  Try this: Give him a lipstick blow job—aka where you brush your closed but relaxed lips against the head of his penis, like you’re applying lipstick. Hold his shaft with your fingers, but not in a fist (avoid holding his penis like a microphone, but do approach it with the same blind confidence of a mediocre stand-up act). Keesling suggests varying the sensations by opening your mouth a bit and rubbing his head between them.

                                  35. The Seam of His Testicles

                                  You know the spot where Gepetto glued your boy’s balls onto his body? Or like how socks always have a seam in them? Well, your guy’s got one that separates his testicles and keeps them from becoming one big testilump. Cox says it’s a nerve-rich pleasure trail that runs top to bottom along his scrotum, and it’s vastly underappreciated.

                                  Try this: Cradle his balls in one hand while gently pressing the first two fingertips of your other hand into the top of the crease (close to where the testicles connect to the base of his penis). Then trace downward with your fingers until you reach the bottom of his scrotum. But don’t forget to be gentle!

                                  36. His Frenulum

                                  The F-spot is the little nubbin of flesh underneath the crown of his penis connecting the head to the shaft. It’s often overlooked because it’s part of the undercarriage, but Britton says there’s actually a bundle of nerves at this point that when touched “set off an amazing chain reaction of rapture.”

                                  Try this: The next time you’re going down on him, hold his penis steady with one hand while really giving his crown your all. Each time you circle your tongue around to his frenulum, flick it a few times with your tongue stiffened, and then relax and go back to licking the crown.

                                  37. His Lower Back

                                  If you’re looking for a way to turn your partner way TF up without even taking his pants off, look no further. As clinical sexologist and psychotherapist Kristie Overstreet explains, the pudendal nerve that stimulates all the areas of the groin is located here, at the bottom of the spinal cord.

                                  Try this: Have your partner take his shirt off and lay on his stomach with his arms by his side. Hot tip: Keep his pants on, but pull them down a few inches for a tantalizing never-nude experience. Lightly run your fingers or anxiety-ravaged cuticles down across his lower back, stopping before you hit ass cheek.

                                  38. His Earlobes

                                  TBH, this is totally an underrated sensitive li’l pocket of skin you’re probably neglecting during your normal hookups—just think about how jumpy you get when someone whispers in your ear!

                                  Try this: Overstreet suggests kissing your partner across his shoulder, up his neck, and stopping right before you hit his ear. Do this to both sides, because asymmetry is for the lazy. When he’s right about to lose it, start kissing his earlobe, and use your tongue to bring his earlobe into your mouth. Play around with gentle nibbles, tongue, etc. Be careful not to touch any other part of his body while doing this, and see how wild he gets from you just touching his earlobes.

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                                  20 Best Foreplay Tips for Women to Please Him in Bed

                                  Ahh—foreplay! The typical anticipatory precursor to sex. It’s ever-important to you and oh-so-fun for him, but it’s not just for a woman’s pleasure.

                                  It’s a common understanding that foreplay is more important to women than guys, and some guys do sometimes seem to wander around in a Neanderthal state like What is foreplay?

                                  Nevertheless, foreplay is important for both of you, even if he doesn’t quite get it yet. Some guys are a little scared of too much foreplay because they can’t handle the stimulation without losing their control.

                                  Let’s cover the penis anatomy to start and then we’ll jump into 20 foreplay tips for you to try.

                                  What are the most pleasurable parts of the penis?

                                  His penis is a little more straightforward than your vagina in appearance, but just like you, guys have spots on their penis that are just as sensitive. The more you know about these spots, the better you can please him during foreplay.

                                  The Frenulum of the Penis

                                  The frenulum is a strip of sensitive skin with a ton of nerve endings that attaches the penis to the foreskin. If a guy is circumcised, the frenulum will be narrowed down to only a small, usually v-shaped portion of skin just below the center of the head.

                                  The frenulum area is extremely sensitive, even if the majority of it is missing due to circumcision, and stimulation does encourage ejaculation.

                                  According to the British Journal of Urology, guys with a circumcised penis are most sensitive around the scar where the bulk of the frenulum was removed.

                                  The Glans Penis

                                  The glans penis, which is most often simply called the glans, is basically just the head of the penis with a technical name.

                                  Glans directly translates from the Latin word acorn, which is indicative of the typical bulbous sort-of shape of the tip of the penis. Men have a lot of nerve endings in their glans, and during arousal, blood fills the area to make it even more sensitive.

                                  The Underside of the Shaft

                                  The underside of the shaft of the penis is primarily where guys have a lot of sensitivity. The lower side of the glans, the frenulum (or the remainder of the frenulum), and a few other points make up this sensitive area.

                                  For more information on ways to control the most sensitive areas of the penis, see our article about: The Squeeze Technique

                                  Top 20 Tips for Foreplay

                                  1. Talk Dirty to Him

                                  Open your mouth and let those dirty thoughts spill out, even if you have to whisper.

                                  Talking dirty to a guy gets his mind and pulse racing, so injecting a little dirty talk into your foreplay efforts is going to get him all fired up.

                                  • Tell him how you want him to touch you or where you want his hands.
                                  • Tell him what you want to do to him or what you’re doing to him.
                                  • Tell him what your body feels like.

                                  Something as simple as a whispered phrase or expression can really send his arousal to new heights.

                                  2. Take Him Shopping for Lingerie

                                  Yes, you’re probably good at picking lingerie you think looks sexy on you, but that’s not the same as him picking lingerie because hethinks it’s going to be sexy on you.

                                  Taking your partner shopping for lingerie ensures he gets the look he wants to feast his eyes upon, and the whole ordeal generates a fair amount of foreplay-style heat.

                                  For a little more spice, you can pick something for him to wear, and he can pick something for you.

                                  3. Tease Him Throughout the Day

                                  When you get down to it, foreplay for men can take place from the time you finish with sex until the next time you come together, so there’s a lot of opportunity in between to build anticipation.

                                  Make it a point to tease him throughout the day. By the time you get to a time or situation in the day when you can be together privately, he’ll barely be able to contain himself.

                                  Send him sexy messages while he’s at work. Drop by on his lunch break and give him a seductive kiss or two. Pointedly sit on his lap while he’s watching TV with your body pressed against his. Make it a point to give him an alluring peek down your blouse or up your skirt.

                                  Teasing is easy with guys because their sexual pilot light is always burning, so to speak.

                                  Anything that can be construed as sexual will be.

                                  For more detailed information on how you can spice things up in the bedroom, read our article: 21 New Things Couples Need to Try in Bed in 2020

                                  4. Make a List of the Things You Want Him to Do to You

                                  Sit down with a pen and paper and write a list. This is going to be a to-do list but not a honey-do list as usual—this list is all about how you want to be pleased during foreplay or sex.

                                  Concocting a sexy list for his eyes only is arousing, and it gives you the chance to make your desires known in a way that he’s going to like.

                                  Stroke his ego by telling him in a detailed way what you like about his body and what you like that he already does during your private moments.

                                  Weave in information about your own fantasies with him or how you want him to please you and where.

                                  The more detailed and graphic the better!

                                  5. Surprise Him with Secret Sexy Attire

                                  Shopping together for lingerie is fun, but it is also going to arouse your partner if you surprise him with secret sexy attire, and it doesn’t even have to be lingerie either.

                                  It’s a little cliche, but you could always just wrap yourself in something like a nice trench coat.

                                  Slip on some heels and a little lipstick, and meet him up for lunch. When he asks you to remove your coat, whisper to let him know you have absolutely nothing under the coat.

                                  His jaw will drop, and there will only be one thing on his mind from that moment on.

                                  6. Enjoy Foreplay Outside of the Bedroom

                                  Slip your hand down his pants while he’s hanging out on the couch, kiss on his neck seductively while he’s on his laptop, or show your partner he’s invited to fondle you while you do laundry.

                                  Foreplay in other places beyond the bedroom (or outside the house) is super-sexy, and the element of potentially getting caught really adds a new layer of excitement to the situation.

                                  It’s not even a bad idea to plan for an overnight stay in a cheap hotel room just for fun. Getting out of your typical surroundings can bring out a new side of your sexuality as well as his.

                                  7. Play Around with New Sensations

                                  The penis may not be all that complicated, but it can respond positively to varied sensations.

                                  Playing around with new sensations can be some of the best foreplay for men.

                                  Pick up some warming or cooling lube, give him oral sex while eating a popsicle, or play around with his penis and testicles with warmed coconut oil on your hands. You may find all kinds of new sensations he likes, and he will no doubt enjoy the experience.

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                                  8. Try a Little Sneaky Seduction

                                  Seduction requires a little sneaky play when you get a moment or two alone, or even just alone enough that others won’t notice.

                                  • Slip off your heel under the table at dinner and run your twinkling toes up his leg and to his inner thigh.
                                  • Make it a point to brush your body against his arm when you walk past him.
                                  • Leave some hot breath lingering on his neck as you pull away from a kiss on the cheek.

                                  These are the foreplay moves for women that don’t involve going for the genitalia at all, but they will drive him just as crazy.

                                  9. Give Him a Full-Body Massage With Oil

                                  Prepare the bedroom (or any room) by lowering the lights, lighting a candle, and maybe playing some music. Warm-up a bit of coconut oil, and then slip into a robe you can slip out of easily.

                                  Invite him for a full-body massage, and just as he gets comfortable, drop your robe to let him know this sensual foreplay is going to be all about the things he likes.

                                  Sensual foreplay is all about soft-touch, passion, and making the other person feel doted upon.

                                  Even the tough guys like to feel adored and pampered by their sexy partner—especially if she’s massaging him in the nude.

                                  10. Nothing Wrong with a Little Grinding

                                  Get his attention by moving your body against him in a grinding motion while sitting on his lap.

                                  Nothing is going to get his attention more than if you slip into something sheer and sexy and grind against his body as if you just can’t wait any longer.

                                  He’ll be entranced, and you’ll have a lot of fun in the process.

                                  11. Don’t Be Afraid to Take Charge

                                  A lot of guys tend to be the initiators, and some guys like that sense of control.

                                  Yet, most guys will also tell you there’s something hot about a woman who takes charge in the bedroom.

                                  If you want to arouse him, try taking the reins for a change, especially if you’re typically the laid-back one who lets him direct the show.

                                  If you’re a little shy about lowering your inhibitions and taking charge, try blindfolding him and binding his hands. Just these two changes can help you find some new bravery during foreplay.

                                  It’s fun to make him wait for what he wants and get a little demanding or domineering in the process. Make him beg for pleasure and your touch, or give him just enough stimulation to leave him longing for more.

                                  12. Let Him Dominate You … BDSM-Style

                                  Many women fantasize about relinquishing all control to their partner during foreplay. Even if being submissive is not normally your preference, it never hurts to allow your partner to be a little more in control.

                                  He will most assuredly enjoy this foreplay idea if he knows he has your permission beforehand to take control. You might want to do a few things before you get started to give him the hint.

                                  1. Pick up some cable ties or light restraints and a blindfold
                                  2. Create a safe word you can use if you get uncomfortable and let him know what it is

                                  This kind of foreplay can get as kinky as you want. Spanking, biting, leather, chains, fancy ceiling contraptions—it’s all up to you and how seriously he takes the “dominating” thing or how far you’re willing to step into the “submissive” role.

                                  But there’s no doubt you’ll both have a good time and probably a few laughs in the process.

                                  13. Call Him Up for a Sexy Invitation

                                  There’s something so sexy about a woman all hot and bothered, ready and waiting, and sending out an invitation for sex to her man. This call says you need it and you need it now.

                                  Go ahead and send that text, call him up, or draft a well-worded text message. Chances are, he’ll arrive in no time and be adequately prepared to deliver what you want.

                                  14. Fulfill His Fantasy

                                  Most guys will be pretty open about those secret fantasies they have when it comes to foreplay ideas.

                                  But if he’s never mentioned it, just ask. If nothing else, ask him via text—he may be more comfortable disclosing details if he’s not face-to-face.

                                  Chances are, his foreplay fantasies will be things you can easily make happen, and bringing those fantasies to life is so much fun.

                                  The key here to build his confidence is to not laugh off his fantasies. If he’s comfortable enough to share them with you, he’s probably thought about these imaginary scenarios a lot.

                                  15. Feed His Fetishes

                                  Most guys have some sort of fetish. To feed his fetish, you have to first understand what exactly a fetish is:

                                  “An unusually strong liking or need for a particular object or activity, as a way of getting sexual pleasure.”

                                  Guys are not freaks if they get aroused by certain things; it just makes foreplay for men more interesting, and totally fascinating for you.

                                  Whether his fetish is something mild like shoes and feet or something a little on the wild side like balloons, feed that fetish!

                                  He’s going thrilled because you aim to please him, no matter how unique his sexual interests are, and he’s going to grow even more comfortable with his sexuality in the process.

                                  16. Watch Porn with Him

                                  Maybe porn is not usually your thing, or maybe it is but you prefer to catch a sneak peek alone.

                                  Guys are naturally aroused via sight, so porn for him can be foreplay all by itself.

                                  If you want to do something special to enhance foreplay with your partner, consider picking out a sexy video you think he’ll like and watch it together.

                                  Take the opportunity to talk about certain positions you think look like fun or what you think is hot. It can be a real turn-on for both of you.

                                  17. Get Crafty with Fellatio

                                  Oral sex (fellatio) is the epitome of gratifying foreplay for most men. You may believe you’re already good at giving him just what he likes, but there’s always room for a little creativity with oral sex.

                                  Changing things up can really make this form of foreplay for men even more fun than usual. You could:

                                  • Pick a new place to give him oral sex like in the car or while he’s in the shower
                                  • Try new positions for giving oral sex
                                  • Implement some warm chocolate syrup, spray whipped cream, or some yummy flavored lube

                                  Remember, if you’ve used a delay spray like Promescent, give the product time to absorb and then wash him off before you get to work—you don’t want a numbed mouth.

                                  18. Let Him Watch You Please Yourself

                                  Why not bring your partner in on your self-pleasing endeavors. It will be a foreplay experience he won’t soon forget, and just having him watch can be a real turn-on for you.

                                  If it’s hard for you to be that open with your body and self-pleasing activities, consider shooting a sexy video while you are alone and gifting your partner with your naughty scenes when he least expects it.

                                  Toys are totally optional here; he’s going to find watching you just as satisfying whether you are using your hands or a fancy gadget.

                                  19. Buy Some New Toys

                                  There are good reasons why the adult toy industry is a multi-billion-dollar industry. Those sexy gadgets, vibrating concoctions, and rings for his penis make foreplay and sex even more interesting.

                                  If your sex life is lacking and you’re struggling to find the best foreplay for men, add a few toys to the mix. A few fun sex toys for guys:

                                  • A remote-controlled vibrator for you that he can control
                                  • Vibrating rings that slip around his penis to help hold his erection longer
                                  • Sex pillows that allow you to lay in just the right position
                                  • Handheld strokers you can use on him

                                  Highlight the experience by making sex-toy shopping a couple’s thing. That way both of you can pick out what you like together.

                                  20. Use Delay Spray On Him for Desensitization

                                  You’ve got all these big plans—new positions you want to try, new ways to get him excited, and new ways to tease and please, but your partner has an unfortunate issue with ejaculating early.

                                  Studies have found most guys barely make it seven minutes, and guys with premature ejaculation problems may rarely get beyond two.

                                  The answer to premature ejaculation and prolonged foreplay? Delay spray.

                                  For more detailed information on overcoming premature ejaculation, read: Ultimate Guide To Premature Ejaculation by Promescent

                                  Delay sprays like Promescent are a miracle if your partner struggles to hold back. Promescent has special ingredients that rapidly absorb into the skin and desensitize some of the most sensitive parts of his penis (like the frenulum, glans, and the underside of the shaft).

                                  A little delay spray in the right spots when you begin foreplay will make sure you get through all the fun and teasing you want to deliver without his overexcitement causing a climax before you ever get to the best part.

                                  He’ll feel like a true champ because he didn’t ejaculate too soon and lasted long enough to please you. And, both of you will get the opportunity to enjoy sex to the fullest, including more foreplay.


                                  Foreplay before sex is like the icing on the cake.

                                  This sensual playtime helps build the anticipation for the main event, and foreplay is an opportunity to give and receive pleasure in exciting ways.

                                  Foreplay for men may not always be a necessity like it is for most women, but the thing about providing pleasure is that it can be just as arousing for you.

                                  So, get creative, find a way to lower your inhibitions just a bit, and your sex life will be all the more interesting.

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                                  Men are always being told to spend more time exploring other parts of a woman’s body but the same advice could be given to women – it’s easy to think of him as a walking penis, but in reality, there are lots of other body parts that he’ll enjoy having stimulated. 

                                  Play with his nipples, sucking on them then blowing on them for extra stimulation; explore his chest and abdomen with your hands; squeeze his behind; and caress his skin from top to toe, to make sure all his nerve endings are on fire for your touch.

                                  Grab his behind

                                  Not only does grabbing his bottom give you more control of his thrusting pattern and speed, it’ll also feel great for him. By grabbing his behind the skin around the anus and below the penis gets pulled, stimulating nerve endings there. 

                                  Feeling his bottom will also give you a clue as to when he’s getting closer to orgasm because he’ll clench his muscles just before climax, allowing you to either keep doing whatever you’re doing so he orgasms or holding off so he lasts longer.

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                                  Add moisture

                                  Whether you’re giving him oral sex, handling his penis, or enjoying penetrative sex lubrication of some kind makes everything feel better. 

                                  For oral sex, try swirling an ice cube around in your mouth before you go down on him (removing it first). This helps stimulate your own oral moisture (aka your spit) and via the coldness, and then the warmth of your mouth, you’ll stimulate more nerve endings in his penis.

                                  For penetrative sex, try using a silicon-based lubrication which will make it easier for him to penetrate you and allow for more sensuous moves.

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                                  Express yourself

                                  He can’t read your mind – tell him when you’re enjoying what he’s doing by using words, “That feels great,” or even simply, “Yes,” is enough to give him the right clues. Ideally, you’ll communicate even more than that – telling him to go slower, faster, further up or down or in a different place altogether. 

                                  Men love instructions especially if they’re given in a loving way because it means they can give you more pleasure. If you can’t use words to communicate, use soft moaning to let him know when something feels good.

                                  How to increase your libido

                                  Focus on his head

                                  Not the one on top of his neck, the one at the tip of his penis. This is where most of the nerve endings are and so this is where you need to focus your attention if you’re giving him oral pleasure.

                                   Use your hand on the shaft of his penis, as you use your mouth on the head, swivelling your tongue and mouth around it and over it to stimulate him fully.

                                  Siski Green is the author of How To Blow His Mind In Bed

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                                  How To Please Your Man In Bed (35 Powerful Tips)

                                  Are you hoping to make a lasting impression on a new love interest in the bedroom? 

                                  Or maybe you’re searching for inspiration to freshen up your sex life with a long-term partner? 

                                  Either way, you’re in the right place. This ultimate guide to pleasing a man in bed has 35 ideas that’ll drive him wild with desire. 

                                  However, before you act upon this advice, it’s important to read the following sentences very carefully. 

                                  I want to tell you about an important part of male psychology that most women aren’t aware of – and this has nothing to do with how you treat him in the bedroom. 

                                  This basic primal instinct is called the ‘Hero Instinct’. 

                                  All men seem to react well when it’s triggered, and it can make all huge difference to your romantic relationships. 

                                  In fact, it can be the difference between from him being attracted and becoming OBSESSED with you (read my personal story to learn how I discovered this

                                  When you understand this way of thinking, it can make more of an impact than any saucy sex moves.  

                                  Once I learned how to activate the Hero’s Instinct, my relationships became a lot more passionate and loving. If you want to learn this too, click to read my backstory. 

                                  That’s not to say you shouldn’t also want to become amazing in bed! Great sex is a win for both of you. So, let’s crack on with my list of 35 incredible sex tips. 

                                  Please Your Man In Bed With Attitude

                                  Please your man in bed with attitude because a woman who knows what she wants can be a very sexy woman indeed. I have a friend called Sandra, we met at school. She has learnt that when she and her boyfriend are in bed together, he loves it when she shows a sexy attitude towards him. He knows that they share a special bond because he trusts her when she shows her sexy side to him. It’s nice that she can relax and be sexy for him because she feels safe and confident in his company. They are a really strong couple; Sandra says it is because they give each other the confidence to be themselves in the bedroom. Having the right attitude is a very powerful personality trait to have and he will love this powerful attitude that you show.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed With Kissing

                                  Please your man in bed with kissing him whenever and wherever you are. When you are out and about, make sure you keep giving him loads of kisses so he knows you find him attractive and you can’t keep your hands off him. Any kind of closeness is a good thing and the more you find yourselves kissing will give you both the contact you crave for. Being closer together through kissing will give you both the ultimate aim of being closer together in the bedroom. It will please your man immensely to know that the kissing will continue when you are in bed together. Kissing is the one great pleasure a couple can share together on a daily basis. It is the one thing that you can do in private or public that will be such a great turn on for you both.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed With Your Sexy Presence

                                  Please your man in bed with your sexy presence and he will truly enjoy the experience of being in bed with you. I have a friend called Thelma, she’s 34 years old. She used to be quiet and shy and would never have dreamed of acting sexily. She used to think that she couldn’t act sexily because her upbringing had been quite strict and sex was never discussed in the home. Then she met Peter and he was able to offer her the encouragement she needed to feel more sexy. Thelma says it is never to late to tap into your inner sexiness so that you too can bring your sexy side to the forefront when you are in the bedroom.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Making Him Feel Desirable

                                  Please your man in bed by making him feel desirable because feeling desired will give him a brilliant feeling of wellbeing. He will feel wonderfully happy and content, the atmosphere in the bedroom will be supercharged with passion. He will feel that you give him a lot of love and affection because you find him so desirable. By him having the knowledge that he is desirable to you will give him the boost he needs to be able to make love to you in a loving and sensual way. You will both benefit from your experience in bed together because you will have created a very intimate partnership. Make him feel desirable by telling him how handsome he is, or how strong his muscles look. Make him feel desirable by telling him what a good kisser he is.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Dressing Nice

                                  Please your man in bed by dressing nice, let the sex happen naturally because the nice things you’re wearing will be a turn on for your man. I have a friend called Carol, we’ve been friends for several years. She has been married to Ken for eight years. Carol says she truly believes that what you wear to bed should be something that is silk or satin to the touch. She reckons that her husband is always complimentary to her about the choice of sexy nightwear she chooses to put on. She says by dressing nice it gives her a feeling of being sexy and it pleases her husband that she makes the effort to look nice for him in the bedroom.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Not Being A Prude

                                  Please your man in bed by not being a prude. Be open to all the excitement that you can have by being more adventurous. Maybe your man wants you to try something different and you are not sure if it will be right for you. Let him know how you feel and explain that you are feeling unsure of yourself because you haven’t done this particular thing before. He will be happy that you have confided in him and he will love helping you discover a new pleasure that you both can share together. As time goes by you will grow closer together and trust in each other’s company with full understanding of what it is that turns you both on.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Teasing

                                  Please your man in bed by teasing him with your sexiness. I have a friend called Wendy, she is a hairdresser and she works in the local village salon. She is a minefield of information because she listens to her customers’ tales whilst she is doing their hair. One of the tips she heard from one of her customers has helped her greatly in the bedroom. That tip was to tease. Teasing your man in the bedroom will bring out in him an animal passion that even he didn’t know he had. Let him know you want him by teasing him and Wendy guarantees that he will want you forever more. She says that by teasing him you are letting him know you want to play sexy games, and knowing that you want to play sexy games will be very exciting for him.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Not Being Shy

                                  Please your man in bed by not being shy and see what a difference it makes to you own self worth. It’s ok to feel shy at certain times because maybe you don’t know what you are doing. Try you’re best to overcome the shyness and you will feel much more self assured, which in turn will give you the opportunity to express yourself in a more positive way. By not being shy you will portray a sexy confident woman in the bedroom. It will please your man to see that you can overcome your shyness in his company. It will allow both of you to move forward in the relationship in a loving and trusting manner. You will both have a little chuckle together In years to come when you look back at how shy you were, it will seem hard to believe that you could have felt like that at one time because you’ve gotten to know each other intimately over the years and nothing will make you feel that shy again.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Being Creative

                                  Please your man in bed by being creative, creativeness will add an extra dimension to your relationship. I have a friend called Denise, she is a really fun person and is always laughing. Her tip for you for pleasing your man in bed is to be creative. She would like you to start being creative by reading some books or by going on line to see what you think you might like to try. She adds that it should be something you feel comfortable with, otherwise you won’t enjoy it, and if you don’t enjoy it… neither will he. When you are ready to go ahead with your creativeness in the bedroom she’s sure your man will be very appreciative of your attempts to try and please him.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed With Communication

                                  Please your man in bed with communication because without communication you will never know what he’s thinking or feeling. Even worse is that he won’t know what your thinking or feeling. If you don’t know what each other is thinking or feeling you won’t know if things are going well in your relationship. Communicating to each other what your wants and needs are is a great way to have a secure partnership. You will trust in each other to know that if one of you is not feeling right with something you will let the other person know. Likewise if one of you particularly likes something you will be able to let the other person know.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed With Fun

                                  Please your man in bed with fun and your happiness will be complete. I have a friend called Jenny, she’s a full time housewife with two children and nothing seems to get her down, she’s a very happy go lucky type of person and is content with her partner. Her advice for you is don’t stress out about all the things you should be doing, instead have fun with all the things you are doing and you will enjoy them even more. She says you shouldn’t listen to what everybody else is doing in the bedroom, you should just enjoy the things that make you and your partner happy instead. Having fun in the bedroom will relax you and you love making will flow along naturally.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Being Naughty

                                  Please your man in bed by being naughty in the bedroom (or by talking dirty to him) and watch his eyes widen In amazement when you show him a part of your personality that he never knew you had. Being naughty in the bedroom with your man is an entirely individual thing. You will come to learn what it is that turns you on the most. In a loving partnership you should be able to tell one another what particular naughty role play appealed to you the most. Once you are successful at being naughty in the bedroom, you can enjoy lots of romantic encounters with your partner. You will get that glint in your eye which lets him know you want him. He will recognise the look and be turned on instantly just by knowing what is to come later on in the bedroom.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Mixing Things Up

                                  Please your man in bed by mixing things up and he will never be bored. I have a friend called Leslie, she is 29 years old and she likes to go to the cinema with her boyfriend. She’s got a vivid imagination and she reckons her and her boyfriend have a great time in bed together. They are always trying new things in the bedroom and she says she thinks this is why their relationship is so strong. Her advice to you is to try mixing things up in the bedroom so that your man is always on his toes, waiting for you to create another exciting encounter with him. Make it Impossible for him to be bored in the bedroom and enjoy a strong relationship just like she does.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Taking Control

                                  Please your man in bed by taking control and he will forever be in your gratitude. Somewhere along the journey of life there seems to be an unwritten rule that the man is the one who should take control in the bedroom. This is definitely not true. In fact there are a lot of men who really enjoy it when their partners take control. They can really enjoy the pleasure of sex when it is not them who has to initiate the moment all of the time. They will love the fact that you are confident enough to take control and will enjoy all that you have to offer them. It might seem a bit daunting at first to be the one taking control in the bedroom but the more you do it the more you will get used to it and the more natural it will become.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed With New Tricks

                                  Please your man in bed with new tricks and enjoy the praise you will receive each and every day for keeping your man entertained. Adding a new dimension to your bedroom escapades will give you the opportunity to express yourself in an entirely individual way. Enjoy each other’s company a lot more by talking about what new tricks you will get up to together. You will find that you will be giving one another secret looks that mean something very special is going to happen when you are in the bedroom together later. Only the two of you will understand what is to come and this knowledge will give you a powerful and trusting bond.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed With Praise

                                  Please your man in bed with praise and his confidence will grow. I have a friend called Beverley, she is incredibly beautiful and thankfully she’s also modest. Her advice to you is to praise your man in the bedroom because if you don’t he will lose his prowess. Beverley is used to being praised by her man because of her good looks, she also knows that it gives her confidence to know she looks good. She is mindful of the fact that her man also needs praise. When she gives her man praise in the bedroom she knows it will benefit them both because he will be much more settled in the knowledge that what he’s doing is the right thing for her. Praise him on his sexual prowess and tell him what you think he’s really good at, he will respond by wanting to improve his technique even more.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Taking The Initiative

                                  Please your man in bed by taking the initiative because you know it’s what he wants. He won’t ask you to take the initiative because he won’t want you to feel pressured. But deep down he would love it if you would take the initiative. Taking the initiative will show him that you want sex which means he hasn’t got to second guess what mood you are in. Taking the initiative will show him that you care for him and want him to enjoy himself. Taking the initiative will show him that you have got a mind of your own and he will love you for this. Your relationship will feel like it’s on an equal footing and you will both know where you stand with each other. When one of you suggests in the future something new to try you will both respond with gusto knowing or guessing who is going to take the initiative.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed With A Massage

                                  Please your man in bed with a massage and you will both enjoy the sensation. I have a friend called Barbara, she goes on lots of holidays with her husband. Whenever her and her husband go on holiday he always heads straight to the spa because he really enjoys a nice massage. Barbara’s advice to you is give your man a massage. Barbara gives her husband a massage because she knows how much he likes them. She says if you are not sure how to give a massage, go to a spa and have a massage yourself, that way you will know what to do and also you will know how lovely it feels. Over time you will find out which areas are particularly sensitive to him, it is knowing about these intimacies about your man that will cement your relationship together for a very long time.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Being Spontaneous

                                  Please your man in bed by being spontaneous and your spontaneity will make him feel special. It’s really nice when moments in the bedroom happen spontaneously, it’s great that you feel relaxed in his company and can react to the sensations you are feeling. He will love it that you can respond to him in a way that tells him he is being a considerate lover. If what you are experiencing feels right you will respond spontaneously to his touch and this will give him confidence in the bedroom. If he is confident in the bedroom you will both enjoy the lovemaking a lot more.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Slowing Down

                                  Please your man in bed by slowing down and revel in the warmth that your lovemaking brings. I have a friend called Gemma, she was single for several years before she met Matt. Because she’d been single for a while before she met Matt she thought that she should go all out in the bedroom to please him, she admits she quite often approached sex as though it was a race. When she was settled in the relationship and trusted Matt she stopped racing along in the bedroom with poor Matt on tow. Her advice to you is slow down, you don’t have to race to the finish line to enjoy the togetherness that lovemaking brings.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Being Romantic

                                  Please your man in bed by being romantic and you will enjoy a dream partnership. Being romantic is a lovely way to show your man how much you care about him. He will know that you don’t just see him as a partner but as a lover as well. You make him feel like a special human being. A lovely romantic gesture you can try is to put roses on the pillows, this conjures up a very special image of romance indeed. It turns an ordinary bedroom into a romantic haven, somewhere you would expect to find in a posh hotel. The look in your eyes will tell him at a glance that you’ve thought of everything that will give him the wonderful experience that is yet to come. The anticipation will be a very powerful emotion for both of you.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Being Sensual

                                  Please your man in bed by being sensual because sensuality creates an atmosphere all of its own in the bedroom. I have a friend called Patricia, she is a girly girl and loves everything that sparkles and glitters. Her advice to you is that whilst sensuality can enhance things sexually, it can also enhance your relationship in other ways as well. Patricia says feeding each other strawberries dipped in chocolate can be a very sensual thing to try, she also however says that being sensual in your everyday life and enjoying the world around you, is a sure fire way to enhance the sensuality you will both feel in the bedroom whenever you are in each other’s arms.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Being Feminine

                                  Please your man in bed by being feminine and your femininity will capture his heart forever. Being feminine is loving every inch of your body. Your body is what makes you female. Don’t dismiss your curves, your curves are feminine, they make you the woman you are, they make you the woman he first felt attracted to. Your man will be happy for you that you are happy in your own skin. He will respect you for embracing your figure and being yourself rather than what somebody else expects you to be. Being graceful and having good manners will also enhance your femininity. Your man will be proud to be seen with you and he will love the fact that when you are alone together in the bedroom he’s the one that will be enjoying all of your feminine charms.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Being Confident

                                  Please your man in bed by being confident and together you will reach the stars. I have a friend called Alison, she knows what she wants and she knows how to get it. Her advice for you is to know that clothes matter, you absolutely will not feel confident in the bedroom when you are wearing an old tattered nightgown with a washed out pair of knickers on underneath. In fact you will positively cringe inside if he reaches over for you because you definitely won’t want him to see what you’ve got on. Alison wants you to know that being confident in the bedroom will come naturally the more you practice. Alison’s motto is ‘practice makes perfect’, and make sure you treat yourself to some lovely new lingerie.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Being Happy

                                  Please your man in bed by being happy and the relationship you’re in will be greatly cherished. Everybody wants to be happy, especially your man. When you are happy it makes it easier for him to be happy. Any stresses you both may have felt in the day will be quickly banished when you are in bed together enjoying each other’s company. It’s nice to have an upbeat relationship where you can both feed off the other person’s happiness. Happiness is like an infection, it’s catching. So when you are happy in bed with him, he will catch the infection from you and he will be happy too.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Being Honest

                                  Please your man in bed by being honest and there will never be any doubt in his mind that what you are saying and doing is totally truthful. Your man will want reassurance from you that what he is doing is right for you, if it is then tell him so. If on the other hand what he is doing isn’t right for you then you really must tell him. You might feel that you are being critical of him, you are not, you are being incredibly helpful. Your relationship will not work without honesty. You cannot move forward when you are lying to him. You will be doing yourself no favours if you don’t let him know what it is that you like or dislike. In the long run he will appreciate your honesty and the trust that comes with it.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Being Playful

                                  Please your man in bed by being playful because he will enjoy the fun side of your nature. I have a friend called Janet, she is 52 years old and she is still as playful in the bedroom with her partner as she was when they first met in 1992. Her advice for you is to do what she does and be playful in the bedroom. Dressing up is one way to be playful. Acting out roles is another way to be playful. Playing strip poker is another way to be playful. Whatever it is that you decide to do to be playful in the bedroom, make sure you are comfortable doing it. It won’t please either of you if you are not comfortable with what you are doing.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Not Being Selfish

                                  Please your man in bed by not being selfish and he will admire the thought and concern you show for him. By not being selfish you will be able to share your moments in the bedroom together with better understanding of each other’s needs and wants. He will be able to let you know what he wants without fear of reprisal. He will know that you want to please him and this knowledge will give him the confidence to talk to you about all the things that matter to him. Your relationship will be all the better for listening and understanding each other. By not being selfish, you will be showing him that you recognise the relationship as an equal partnership and there will be no discord between you.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Being Well Groomed

                                  Please your man in bed by being well groomed, not only will he appreciate your efforts, your love life will be vastly improved too. I have a friend called Zoe, She is always immaculately dressed and she has been married to David for 28 years. For the whole entire time I have known Zoe, she has always been well groomed. I know her husband David very much admires her. Zoe’s advice for you is to let you know that being well groomed is the starting point to pleasing your man in the bedroom. She says that David’s admiration for her is a step toward the bedroom door before they’ve even swapped pleasantries over the dinner table. The reason for this she says is that he is attracted to her because of the care she takes in getting herself ready for him.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Setting The Scene

                                  Please your man in bed by setting the scene, and you will both enjoy being in the zone when you enter the bedroom together. You can set the scene way before it comes to the time when you go to bed. You can set the scene by building up to the grand finale by having dinner out at a nearby restaurant, or you could go to the cinema and watch a romantic movie, knowing what is coming later all adds to the build up of anticipation. When it comes to the bedroom itself you can have the lights turned down low, you can have new satin sheets to climb into, you can have your favourite album playing in the background. All of these things will set the scene beautifully.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Showing Devotion

                                  Please your man in bed by showing devotion, and your life together will be a loving one. I have a friend called Kate, she has and always will be devoted to her husband Mike. They share a very special kind of devotion and it is a joy for everybody to witness. Her advice for you is to let you know that life is too short to not let one another know how much they are loved. She wants you to do everything you can to make your man happy. Life is too precious to let time slip by without letting your man know how much he is loved. She says you will reap the rewards of this devotion because over time your man will return that devotion back to you.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed With Mystery

                                  Please your man in bed with mystery and let him solve the puzzle. Don’t reveal everything about yourself in one go. Save somethings about yourself that will be revealed as time goes by. When you are in bed with him and feeling close, its nice to have pillow talk, a time when you can both nestle into each others arms and plan your dreams together. It would be lovely if you could reveal a part of yourself that would fascinate him. A part of you that would make him look at you in a whole different way, his response that he never thought you could do anything as daring or as adventurous as that, would be lovely for you to hear. A piece of the puzzle regarding you would have been solved. All of your revelations will be be very interesting to him and as each part of you is unfolded it will bring you so much closer together.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed By Relaxing

                                  Please your man in bed by relaxing and your time together will flow with a natural vibe. I have a friend called Helen, she is so laid back that nothing seems to phase her. What we would think of as a crisis she would think of as a minor hiccup. Her advice for you is to let things move along at their own pace. Don’t try to force a situation just because it’s what you want. Your man will relax and be himself when you too are relaxed. She says he won’t like it if you are constantly acting stressed. When you are in bed together just let things take their natural course, relax and enjoy the closeness you can share together.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed With Encouragement

                                  Please your man in bed with encouragement and let his confidence grow. Maybe you’ve just met or maybe you’ve been a couple for several years, however long you’ve been together doesn’t come into it when it comes to giving your man encouragement. He will want to know he’s doing everything right for you, especially in the bedroom. Keep giving him the encouragement he needs and you will see him gain in confidence every time you are together. He will know that you care for him because you are always helping and praising him.

                                  Please Your Man In Bed With Passion

                                  Please your man in bed with passion because without passion you can’t have a meaningful and loving relationship. Passion is what lights up your day, it’s what makes you walk through life with a spring in your step. It’s a lovely feeling when you can look into each other’s eyes and see the passion reflected back. A million words could not be said, that would mean as much as that one passionate glance toward each other. You will both know in an instant that the passion you both share is there all the time when you look into each other’s eyes.

                                  I hope that gave you some inspiration. For more inspiration check out our other dating tips for women here.


                                  How Can I Surprise My Man In Bed?

                                  You can surprise your man in bed in many ways. However a hugely romantic thing to do for your man is to run a bath, light some candles, buy some nice wine and chocolates and give each other massages. Your man will likely not expect the amount of effort you have put into this little date so he will probably fall in love with you even more for it. 

                                  How Can A Man Get Better In Bed?

                                  A man can get better in bed however it will take time. It is important to communicate with your man exactly what makes you happy in bed so make sure that you have an open conversation with your man about what you want. This is the key to having a strong physical and emotional conversation with your man. 

                                  How Can Physically Excite A Man?

                                  You can physically excite a man by being affectionate with him, giving him a massage or wearing some new underwear. Try planning a romantic evening with your man by lighting a few candles and running a bath for you to share. This is a great way to physically excite a man. 

                                  Where Do Men Like To Be Touched?

                                  It is important to talk to your guy about exactly what he likes. Open communication is so important in any relationship. Have an honest conversation with your guy about this and find out what makes him happy. Communication is important to build a strong physical and emotional bond in any relationship. 

                                  How Often Does A Man Need To Release Sperm?

                                  This depends on every guy so have an open conversation about what he is comfortable with and what makes him happy. Open communication will help you solve most relationship issues so be sure to talk to him if you are unsure about anything. 

                                  90,000 Borders in bed. How to overcome embarrassment and please your partner | Healthy life | Health

                                  Tells Yulia Doroshenko, psychologist-sexologist :

                                  – In our society, it is customary to keep silent about sex, so the concept of what is normal in relationships and sex, and what is not, is formed while reading romance novels or watching pornography. Both are equally far from real life. The norm in sexology and psychology is what happens in the bedroom between two equal adults by mutual consent.Everyone has their own preferences and desires. Equality and the ability to say “stop” at any moment are the main indicators that what is happening can be called “normal”.

                                  There are people who are disgusted with oral sex. There can be two reasons. The first is a traumatic episode from the past, the second is a consequence of upbringing. At the first, the inability to talk about sex leads women to the point that they are embarrassed to tell that they were once subjected to sexual violence. As a result, the problem is not solved in any way.But more often than not, disgust is associated with the second reason: in childhood, parents called everything related to genitals and / or sex “dirty”. And you can’t take dirt in your mouth. Adults rarely think about how to tell children “about it” and how their story will shape their sexuality. However, the second case is easily corrected in contrast to the first.

                                  Major mistakes in oral sex

                                  1. “You know better what is pleasant for your partner”. Instead of co-creation and research on how best to enjoy each of the partners, a man or a woman proceeds from his own “knowledge”.”I know she (he) should definitely like it!” As a result, sex turns into something very strange.

                                  2. “Too fast / slow”. Too fast or, on the contrary, slow rhythm, wrong pressing force. These parameters need to be found by the pair on their own. There can be no ready-made recipe, all people have different preferences.

                                  3. “I don’t want to, but if you ask …” Excessive theatricality. If you don’t like or don’t want to do something specific in bed, then it is unlikely that it will please your partner.Who likes it when they do something out of hand?

                                  4. “The same thing again.” Lack of variety. Obsession with one method leads to boredom and stagnation. From oral, vaginal sex, from fondling with hands or special devices from a sex shop, the sensations are different. Well, about how fried, boiled and baked potatoes differ in taste.

                                  How do I solve the problem?

                                  What to do if a man likes oral sex, but his woman does not? Or vice versa.

                                  1. Discuss. If someone doesn’t like oral sex, there must be a reason. And it’s important to discuss it. Not just to say, but to find the strength and words to explain why this is so. After all, such a disgust may have a purely hygienic reason, and a preliminary visit to the bathroom will fix everything. If the cause is early childhood trauma, or worse, the result of sexual abuse, then this is best discussed with a psychologist. Otherwise, your behavior will be controlled by the subconscious with its horror stories, and not sincere desires.Is this a fulfilling life? I think no.

                                  2. Find the right words for rejection. Refusal from oral sex is often perceived as the phrase “I don’t love you”. In general, most problems in a couple arise from the fact that it is difficult to clarify what exactly the partner meant by his refusal. It is important to understand how your partner hears you and what horrors the phrase “I will never give you a blowjob” turns into. Maybe it is: “You are a dirty pig, your desires are unnatural”? Or: “I don’t like you that much and I will never like you”? Or maybe: “You are worthless and do not deserve that I do something for you”? All options are unpleasant.And what was actually said?

                                  3. Change if you want to change. What to do if dislike for oral sex is caused by upbringing and you have a desire for the sake of your loved one to reconsider your attitude to this type of affection? First, negotiate hygiene. This is important, this is a banal respect for a partner. Second, make it clear what you want to actually broadcast to your partner. “You are dear to me”, “I want to please you.” In sex, it is important to be sincere, and the position “Okay, I will do what you want, just get rid of me” often leads to even greater misunderstanding.Third, sign a mutual research agreement. The boundaries of what is permissible for each person cannot be broken. Therefore, it is important to explore yourself, your feelings, the feelings of your partner. This requires time and mutual agreement. It’s important to be honest about what you like and what you don’t. Do not be alarmed, at first you will blush, turn pale, embarrassed and mumble, not knowing how to express your feelings. But without dialogue, it is impossible to achieve harmony in a relationship.

                                  How to overcome embarrassment?

                                  – Embarrassment is a normal indicator that you allow your partner into your most intimate zone, where you open up completely, appear as you are.The positive side of embarrassment is tenderness. If you get close enough to your partner, then you either feel tenderness (when the approach was safe – no ridicule or pain) or embarrassment (when the approach was unsafe and you are not sure how your partner will react to what happens). Don’t eliminate your embarrassment. Let it be, but don’t stop you. This is just a signal that the process of rapprochement between you and your partner is somehow going wrong. You may not be ready for what is happening yet.Then you need to wait a bit, discuss how to create the most favorable conditions for oral sex. If the embarrassment persists, it may indicate low self-esteem. Why be embarrassed if everything is all right with you and you are accepted?

                                  In general, dialogue is able to solve many problems that arise in a couple, including sexual ones. The same oral sex can be both a foreplay and an independent process. What do you choose? Is it difficult to start such a dialogue, is embarrassment holding you down? Then first you need to practice a little.How? Very simple! Write a dictionary – what you will call the organs and processes taking place in your bedroom. Write diaries where you describe the feelings that you would like to tell your partner. The good old technique of scrolling dialogue in front of a mirror is also paying off. Even going to a sex shop can help you deal with your embarrassment.

                                  And when you are ready to move on to action, it is best to repeat your goal to yourself: “I just want to show him how much I love him” or “He needs this to feel loved.”Gradually, you will be able to relax and surrender to the process. Often, it is after passing through the embarrassment that one can experience the most vivid feelings and sensations. After all, there is nothing to lose. If you are not pushed away, it means that they accept and love you like that.

                                  Swallow or not?

                                  – Recently I came across interesting research: supposedly semen contains substances that have an antidepressant effect. Unfortunately, I was unable to find the original text of the scientific study, without which it is difficult to judge the reliability of these results.From the point of view of psychology, I can only note here that when there is no dialogue and mutual understanding in a couple, the following often happens. The girl agrees to make it nice. Voluntary-compulsory. She cannot immediately overcome the embarrassment and disgust instilled by her parents in childhood. But he agrees to do anything for the sake of love (or simply on the principle “get rid of me at last!”). As a result, all negative feelings are transferred to the semen, and after orgasm, the woman flies like a bullet into the bathroom to brush her teeth. But it is precisely this behavior that men tend to perceive as rejection!

                                  Relationships are always hard work.To live with another person happily ever after, as fairy tales promise, it is not enough just love or self-sacrifice – you need to value and respect each other. And this acceptance is always the result of a long work on relationships. And here it is not shameful to seek help from a psychologist, who from the outside can evaluate your relationship and help you figure out what is happening. The client of a sexologist is most often a couple, because in order to have sex, two are needed. And difficulties arise precisely on the border between “I” and “you”.And these difficulties are surmountable.

                                  90,000 What do men like in bed? How to please a man in bed

                                  Contrary to popular belief, men do not always think about themselves. Most of the stronger sex do not satisfy their needs in sexual life, because they are either shy or afraid to hurt her, or care about her feelings. In this article we will talk about what men like in bed.

                                  Straight Talk on an Intimate Topic

                                  Not very many women think about what men love in bed.Be honest, because everyone only cares about their own feelings and seeks to achieve the ultimate goal – orgasm.

                                  What men like in bed may surprise the fair sex, so put morality, ethics and conservatism aside, because this article will describe perverse, intimate and secret topics that, although they do not seem obscene from the outside, can cause an easy blush in girls.

                                  Frequently made mistakes

                                  It is important to understand that how many men there are in the world, there are so many different preferences in sex.While some dream of passionate and animal intercourse, others are excited at the sight of women’s feet and are ready to kiss them for hours. Before we start our candid marathon, we need to figure out what mistakes girls make in bed.

                                  • It is generally accepted that every man dreams when a woman begins to scratch and bite his skin. In fact, most of it annoys, because girls do it not in a fit of passion, that is, unintentionally and unconsciously, but rather “because it is necessary”.Imagine how unpleasant the pain that comes from sharp long nails is. It is these sensations that knock a man down to the point of losing an erection.
                                  • What men love in bed is real feelings. With the advent of video recorders, people began to get acquainted with erotic and pornographic films, where every self-respecting actress is simply obliged to moan effectively and stare at the camera theatrically. Now imitation of an orgasm, unnatural moans and too loud screams are nothing more than just imitation.Believe me, when a girl really starts having fun, she turns into a passionate and hot thing. Many of the women do not have the gracefulness that the films show, therefore, during a real orgasm, their eyes can roll, and breathing completely disappear, become intermittent.

                                  Take the first step

                                  What does a man like best in bed? When a girl takes the initiative, and does not wait for the first steps from her partner. Of course, we are not talking about passionate impulses, lasting one or two nights, but about long-term relationships.

                                  If we consider male psychology, then we can find that the stronger sex are hunters who are attracted by the victim and the process of its conquest. Here’s an example: if you’ve ever paid attention to how cats catch mice, you would draw a parallel. When these fluffy animals catch a rodent, they play with it, but as soon as it stops moving, the pets immediately lose all interest. However, mice are also not stupid creatures, so they often pretend, wait for the cat to lose vigilance, and then begin to run away to their hole.After that, the pet’s interest flares up again. And so on in a circle, until either the cat loses the mouse, or does not torture it to the end.

                                  The same thing happens in sex life. If a woman lies and waits for her partner to start “playing” with her, the man gradually loses interest, and he simply cools down to the person.

                                  Conversations will not disturb anyone

                                  If partners are silent, do not trust and do not open to each other, then it is quite understandable why sex life becomes insipid and monotonous.Each person has his own fetish, but how perverted it is is unknown. If you hide all the time about what you want to get in bed, then your intimate relationship will simply break off and quickly get bored.

                                  Most men are delighted when a woman agrees to experiments or herself offers to diversify her sex life. If you do not know how to understand what men like about sex, then for this you will have to talk with a soul-mate, tell what turns each other on, and what vulgarities you would like to try.

                                  Change Style

                                  How a man behaves in bed is directly dependent on the woman. Many representatives of the stronger sex do not fully reveal their sexual potential, which is why it seems that coitus with such a partner is insipid and uninteresting.

                                  But let’s look at this situation differently: most girls are shy about their appearance, but categorically refuse to work on their figure and style. Instead of buying beautiful lingerie, in which to feel more comfortable, a woman chooses household items, the purchase of which can be postponed for several weeks in advance.When it comes to sexual well-being in the family, it is not worth saving.

                                  Answering the question, what men like in bed is beautiful lingerie, erotic stockings and garters, a bold choice of high-heeled shoes. And no matter how old you are, it’s time to throw out your old grandmother’s pantaloons and leggings, appreciate your figure and choose things that will highlight the most feminine forms. Your man will definitely like it!

                                  The writer Gabriel García Márquez, in his book One Hundred Years of Solitude, described the image of a girl who was raised as if she would become a queen.This girl was so conservative that she came out to her husband a few weeks after the wedding night in a huge shirt that wrapped her body from head to toe, and only a small hole near her bosom distinguished these clothes from the standard ones. Believe me, no man will like this image.

                                  Give up missionary position

                                  Of course, everyone starts with her, but it cannot go on like this all his life. Not only does the constant choice of the same position begin to irritate the man, but also the woman turns into a “log” that is not able to feel the cherished orgasm.

                                  If you don’t have enough imagination, then pay attention to the “Kamasutra” – a book that India gave us. There you will find incredible positions – comfortable and not very comfortable, which can rekindle the fire in a relationship and throw out all the accumulated energy.

                                  There are enough trees

                                  From the previous advice follows the following – do not be a log. Men like it when a woman is active during sex, rather than lying on her back, staring at the ceiling. If you want to know how to please a man in bed, then you have to try pretty hard, and not shift all the responsibility to your partner.Otherwise, why would he need a motionless woman when it is easier to get an inflatable sex doll.

                                  So how to please a man in bed? Move your pelvis, touch the man’s body, feel its shape and relief, please yourself, change your posture more often. Of course, not all positions allow a woman to make any movements, but, for example, in the riding position, with good practice, you can satisfy both at once, while moving only the pelvis back and forth or up and down. In addition, when a girl moves, she feels at what angle she has brighter sensations in order to get the coveted orgasm.

                                  A little about poses

                                  Let’s find out what positions men like in bed. To begin with, it should be noted that the stronger sex, although it appreciates experiments, still prefers the most comfortable positions, since in most cases all the work and responsibility is shifted to the guys.

                                  • Missionary. The most common position is when a woman lies on her back and bends her knees, and a man settles on top and enters her. But this position can also be diversified when the girl puts her legs on the shoulders of her partner, or completely straightens and closes them together.
                                  • Doggy Style. Perhaps the most beloved by men for positions. And not because the partner refuses to look at the girl’s face, but because in this way he can completely embrace her body and enter as deep as possible. And many women say that this position brings them much more pleasure than any other.
                                  • Horsewoman. A woman in this position is on top. It is she who regulates the depth of penetration and the pace of coitus, but untrained ladies can get tired very quickly, since most girls do not develop the muscles of the legs, buttocks and abdomen, respectively, there is no endurance.

                                  A little about caress

                                  When girls hear a question about what kind of caresses men like in bed, then they involuntarily begin to imagine oral sex. But let’s be frank: few women can fully satisfy a man during a blowjob – either he lacks experience, or dexterity, or the man is simply unpleasant.

                                  Blowjob, like cunnilingus, gained their popularity immediately with the advent of erotic films, so sometimes it doesn’t matter whether the partner likes this kind of pleasure or not, no one will admit it, because it’s a shame and not comme il faut.

                                  Many men love kisses – passionate, long and hot. They like it when women themselves undress them, when they gently stroke the back and torso, kiss on the neck. Of course, each representative of the stronger sex has its own preferences, but you don’t need to pounce on an unerigated penis without prior preparation. Better find out where your partner’s erogenous zones are – ears, inner thighs, abdomen, neck or back of the head. Maybe the man gets aroused and ready to pounce on his girlfriend after some hot phrases?

                                  Gentle Whisper

                                  What phrases do men like in bed, and is it worth saying anything at all during intercourse? Firstly, any representative of the stronger sex looks at himself in the mirror every day and soberly assesses the state of his body, so when a woman tries to compliment him, for example, “how big you have HE” or “how inflated you are,” the guy starts to doubt in the honesty of your partner.After all, if a man has a small penis, and he knows about it, then no compliments will help, but will only aggravate the situation. That is why girls should speak honestly, openly, without exaggeration.

                                  Secondly, one more mistake the girls make is chatting incessantly. Sex is more than just penetration and the desire to have an orgasm as soon as possible. This whole process is so deep that it can liberate you, saturate you with a positive charge, cheer you up and get closer to your partner on a spiritual level.Therefore, men are annoyed when, during intercourse, the fair sex begins to talk about the events that happened during the day, about thoughts and everyday problems, to advise on what to cook for dinner. It’s another matter when a girl helps the process using phrases such as “Yes”, “More”, “Deeper”, “Careful”, “Left-right”, etc.

                                  Summing up

                                  So what do men like in bed? Try something new with your partner, see her in sexy lingerie (stockings, bodysuit, shoes, garters), use sex toys or other attributes (gag, blindfold, handcuffs, whip, vibrators), enjoy new positions, start to sex suddenly (immediately after dinner, in the morning after waking up, while taking a bath).

                                  Men like it when they touch a woman’s body, play with her clitoris and breasts, but are outraged if a woman is conservative and asks to remove her hands. The stronger sex also likes it when, after intercourse, they are allowed to rest, because in most cases they do all the work for two, and this requires a lot of effort, endurance and patience.

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                                  90,000 women must know the 30 main rules!

                                  1. You can get real pleasure only by telling the man what you want, which of his actions gives you maximum pleasure.He himself will not guess about it, do not hope: he is not able to read your thoughts.

                                  2. By simulating an orgasm, you let yourself down. You can not deprive a partner of feedback. He believes that the orgasm has taken place, and everything is fine, nothing more needs to be done.

                                  3. Very erotic is only a woman who not only gets pleasure, but also tries to give it to her partner. Being selfish in bed is a dead-end path. Look for how to make him feel very pleased.

                                  4. If you feel that your partner does not care whether you are satisfied or not, do not try to give him satisfaction. A real man can only get pleasure if he can deliver it to a woman. A true man is disturbed by your excitement, this is a law of nature. It’s not worth trying for a fake man.

                                  5. Do not restrain your own emotions in bed. Moaning, screaming, babbling and even a strong word – everything is permissible. This is a way to spur a partner in sex, and at the same time express his love and gratitude to him.

                                  6. Great unforgettable sex is a mutual work and experience. You won’t get the best results the first time around. If the first attempt did not live up to expectations, you should not give up on the new partner. Give him extra chances and try to help him. Mutual attention, respect, willingness to forgive sexual failures and mistakes will certainly bring pleasant results in the form of great sex.

                                  7. However, you need to be careful about how your partner is trying to adapt to your needs.When a man’s goal is only his own satisfaction, you should not help him in this, losing self-respect.

                                  8. If a partner is trying to have anal sex with you, without asking how much he is acceptable to you and acceptable and whether you are ready for him, you need to part with him immediately and without hesitation. Or at least discuss so that this does not happen again. Your consent must be obtained for non-traditional sexual activities.

                                  9. Masturbation “teaches” the body to get powerful orgasms.This is proven by scientific research. The rule applies to both sexes. Masturbation is good for both men and women.

                                  10. Female masturbation during sex with a man is great for both: it excites and leads to orgasm.

                                  11. Don’t be afraid to push your sexual boundaries. You can always try something new as long as it doesn’t shock you too much. Openness to novelty will open up new horizons in sex.

                                  12. You should not have sex if you have no desire to do it.And you don’t need to give in to your partner’s pressure. Unless in the process of pressure you yourself will want to give in …

                                  13. Constantly denying sex means destroying real intimacy in a relationship. A woman and a man, if they are a couple, must be close both spiritually and physically.

                                  14. Even if they tell you that your appearance is not good enough – be calm, nature has created you beautiful. Know how to use natural beauty and get joy from it, including erotic.

                                  15.Your man should understand that foreplay is a necessary stage in an intimate relationship. It takes an average woman about 15 minutes to get turned on, take it slow and enjoy the foreplay.

                                  16. Sometimes try to take the initiative yourself. He will be delighted, and you will surely like it.

                                  17. When engaging in unprotected sex, decide if he is ready for your pregnancy. Feel free to ask him about it. Be honest with yourself and ask yourself this question first.

                                  18. Remember the need and importance of kissing. Only they can express true tenderness.

                                  19. Listening to the stories of friends about their fantastic sex life, make allowances for insincerity. You can tell the same if it gives a feeling of satisfaction.

                                  20. There is no need to doubt whether an orgasm has occurred. A real orgasm leaves no room for doubt. But its absence does not mean anything either. Train – and everything will work out!

                                  21. Morning sex does not seem very hygienic, do you doubt your own freshness? If you are satisfied with having sex with an unwashed man who has just woken up, it means that he also likes sex with you, you should not lose confidence in your attractiveness.

                                  22. Fine erotic lingerie, in which you, of course, like yourself, is a must. Even if no one except you sees it.

                                  23. Feelings of disgust, excessive cleanliness in sex are bad helpers.

                                  24. The swallowed seminal fluid tones the woman, makes her more beautiful and fresher. And the sheets will be stain free.

                                  25. Kissing is important not only before sex, but also in the process.

                                  26. And you can also talk in the process. There is no need to say too much, but the most important thing is please.

                                  27. Intimacy means “only for two”. Do not advertise a relationship that has become important and valuable to you and that you intend to maintain for a long time. Yes, you are together, and let all the details remain between you.

                                  28. Confident in her own irresistibility, a woman will always be like that in the eyes of a man. You feel like a beauty – hold on, he will not notice any flaws in appearance and character.

                                  29. The whole body must work for intimate relationships. In bed, touch each other with every cell.

                                  30. Getting pleasure, enjoy. Don’t let outside thoughts distract you from the main thing.

                                  90,000 12 ways to please a woman in bed

                                  Most men strive for their partners to experience an orgasm, but not all succeed. As a result, many suffer from self-doubt and increased anxiety, and this negatively affects erection. Representatives of the stronger sex rarely seek help from specialists and sometimes hesitate to ask the doctor intimate questions.Men need to know that women enjoy not only intercourse itself, but also kissing, touching, and emotion. We have compiled for you a selection of tips on how to give your girl unforgettable moments in bed. You don’t need to be a sex god to please a woman in bed. It is enough to remember that the girl is important not only and not so much the process itself as your attitude towards her. According to the results of various polls, 75% of women do not experience an orgasm from penetration itself, but adore caresses, gentle words and kisses.

                                  Here are 12 easy ways to bring your partner to the highest point of pleasure and make your night unforgettable.

                                  1. Tease her with caress

                                  Kiss, nibble, and tenderly torment her body. The level of pleasure hormones in the body during anticipation of pleasure is much higher than during pleasure itself. Slowly increase the power of the impact, and your girlfriend will be covered with a wave of orgasm.

                                  2. Hot Kisses

                                  Kisses are as important as sex itself.They spark the imagination and trigger a surge in hormones in the blood.

                                  3. Periodically brake

                                  When you have almost brought your partner to orgasm, stop and slowly start winding her up again. Thus, the pleasure will be brighter and last much longer.

                                  4. Dedicate half an hour of foreplay

                                  It is very important to take time to foreplay. Of course, there is no definite rule for how long they should last, but the warm-up is as important as the main part of the act of love.

                                  5. Dirty Talk

                                  Many women enjoy being whispered in their ear during sex. The brain takes an active part in achieving orgasm, as playful words and sighs stimulate the amygdala, an area that is responsible for emotional pleasure.

                                  6. Find erogenous zones

                                  Feel free to study your partner’s body. Look for places that delight her when touched. Among the most sensitive are the neck, shoulders, ears, lower abdomen, inner thighs, pits under the knees, buttocks and feet.

                                  7. Add some footjob

                                  You shouldn’t consider yourself a pervert if you caress the feet of your beloved. Sucking on your partner’s toes can give her incomparable pleasure, because there are many nerve endings at their tips.

                                  8. Take your time

                                  On average, a man needs two to ten minutes to reach orgasm, while a woman takes 16 to 20 minutes. Do not speed up or force her to rush, so as not to ruin everything.The quieter you go, the further you’ll get!

                                  9. Mirror movements

                                  Women, like men, are turned on by visual images. Place a mirror in front of your bed, or buy a large mirrored wardrobe. Watch yourself with your partner during sex to get even more aroused. The best poses for this are lady on top or doggy style.

                                  10. Listen and Memorize

                                  A third of girls are embarrassed to talk about what they like in bed. Try to find out the information you need.If you, too, hesitate to talk about it face to face, write her playful messages. Do not laugh at all if her desires may seem strange, and do not be offended if she says that she does not like something.

                                  11. Try Tantric Sex

                                  Tantric sex is a great way to get closer to your soul mate and make your orgasm brighter. Lie on top of each other and look eye to eye. Breathe in sync, slowly move your hands over your partner’s body, caressing the erogenous zones.Ten minutes of tantra a day will greatly improve your intimate life.

                                  12. Erotic kissing

                                  Hug and kiss the woman slowly, listening to her heartbeat. Work your way from the tips of your toes to your neck so that your loved one will be thrown into a sweet shiver.

                                  It should be remembered that the preferences of women and men in matters of sex differ significantly. This is due to the different reactions of the body to lovemaking. Study your partners to fully enjoy each other.

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                                  90,000 “What is the right way to please a man in bed?” – Yandex.Cu

                                  “Right” is not the right word. Everything that is pleasant to one person and not disgusting to another is right. First of all, you need to get rid of your “clamps” and prejudices.And help your partner get rid of them.

                                  And this is a very difficult matter. Sexual ideology stuffs into people’s heads so much rubbish, ridiculous assessments and opinions, prohibitions and prescriptions … People do not dare to speak absolutely frankly about sex even with their closest ones. And they are always afraid that they will be “misunderstood” or will react with wild prejudices … Even in words. Not to mention action.

                                  First you need to find out the “acceptability range”, ask and observe the preferences.Ideally, achieve complete trust. It is not necessary to agree with any fantasies and preferences. But to be able not to be shocked and not to squeeze, not to moralize. It is polite to refuse, and not to let the regiment down, if the partner’s offer seems humiliating or offensive.

                                  But all this is not achieved quickly and easily.


                                  And the second – who knows where did the popular opinion come from that men say, they are all the same. In fact, people are all different. And sexually too.

                                  Therefore, be wary of any kind of advice that is not attributable to a specific person, but to “men in general.” So let’s say, intimate underwear for someone has some meaning – for someone it doesn’t. Someone is more interested in the light, someone in the twilight, someone in the dark. High heels (a porn stamp) are just annoying for many. As are the long and elaborately painted claws. Some people like long hair, others like a compact haircut. Someone loves clean-shaven causal places, someone loves a neatly trimmed “Bermuda triangle”.There are men who are against shaving their legs and even armpits. Porn in this can give some clues, but you need to understand that these are strongly stamped fairy tales.


                                  You must understand that you live with a specific person, and not with some average subject. Do not expect and do not demand from him mandatory compliance with any “standards”. And in no way condemn for non-compliance with them.

                                  10 ways to please a man in bed

                                  And to achieve this, believe me, is not so difficult.There are several ways to awaken sexuality in a man …

                                  I love you any?

                                  The quality of sexual relations depends not only on the temperament and skill of partners. According to psychologists, a man chooses only among those women who made it clear to him – act! How? A smile, a look, a gesture and even a bright, defiant make-up. Representatives of the stronger sex are ready to accept any of your even unconscious signs for an invitation. But even if you have charmed a man, do not relax! Jumping into bed does not mean the beginning of a long love story.A man also needs to be held back, to make sure that he is constantly drawn to you. This means that your intimate relationship should give him pleasure, and not strain, annoy, cool. However, any woman simply must have in her arsenal a couple of tricks that allow her to keep her partner tightly on the hook.

                                  Be beautiful. It is known that a man “loves with his eyes.” This means that in you he must see the ideal woman – well-groomed and beautiful. Even if you are out of shape (tired, sick, stressed, etc.)meet your partner fully armed. No unkempt or unwashed hair, casually pinned up or slovenly loose. Do not be too lazy to make at least a semblance of a hairstyle, but it is better to style your hair more temptingly. Makeup – fresh, better discreet (you can accentuate your lips a little with lipstick). Manicure and pedicure are perfect, no peeling nail polish or dirty nails. And of course, remove all unnecessary hair on the body (overgrown armpits are considered sexy only 3% of men).

                                  Believe me, the male gaze notices even such seemingly trifles.A man is repulsed by slovenliness – and sometimes he cannot really explain why he did not like an intimate evening with you, just the feeling “this woman is not good for something” will remain in his memory for a long time …

                                  Do you want to please a man in bed?

                                  Add erotica! 80% of the stronger sex excites the visual image of a “woman-temptress”. Moreover, for this it is not at all necessary to purchase a super short peignoir. “Furious mini”, according to psychologists, in seduction is not in the first place.It turns out that most men lose their heads from … maxi. But! Necessarily with a long slit in front, as if by chance exposing the female legs. This “intrigue” has a strong aphrodisiac effect.

                                  But underwear, of course, it is advisable to choose the most revealing your charms. Color – optional. But again, experts suggest that the most exciting color for men is the traditional red.

                                  Seductive fragrances. This time-tested remedy is used by the vast majority of women.Strong enough to attract men, clouding the head with passion, fruity smells, especially with a citrus note. However, when preparing for an intimate date, do not overdo it with scents. Remember the prose of life: what if your lover suffers from any broncho-pulmonary ailments? An attack of illness provoked by a pungent smell will easily nullify all your efforts to be as desirable as possible.

                                  In addition, sexologists claim that the natural smell of a clean body excites men even more than the smells of perfumes, aromatic oils, etc.

                                  Prepare a drink of passion. Seduction of a man with the help of a “love drink” has been known since antiquity. If you want to inflame the passion of your loved one, treat him, for example, with aromatic tea with thyme (thyme) or coffee with cinnamon. You can taste these active “provocateurs of passion” right in bed.

                                  Attention! Some herbs can be strong allergens that can give your partner a headache or allergy. There will be no time for passion …

                                  Be an affectionate kitty. It is a mistake to think that men only need sex. According to experts, representatives of the stronger sex no less than women love to be stroked, caressed, hugged. Therefore, try to offer your beloved massage (you can also erotic). Use special stimulating creams, aromatic oils, and put beautiful bedding on your bed. It is unlikely that your man will refuse such a tempting offer. Massage in general ideally relieves tension and stress, and in this case it will certainly increase the sensibility of relationships …

                                  Take the initiative. The overwhelming majority of women believe that it is the man who is responsible for the quality of sexual life. And the representatives of the fair half obey his whims and requirements. Most often this happens, but experts say: men secretly expect women to take initiative in intimate relationships. For them, this is the best proof that they are loved and desired. However, remember – be seductive, not promiscuous, otherwise a man may have a thought: how many partners did you have if you are so active and skillful in the love game? And it is unlikely that it will be credited to you as a plus …

                                  Do not lead. Some women, after listening to the advice of sexologists that a man needs to be told how to please you, take this literally. Almost every minute instructions fall on your beloved – do this and that, do not do this, touch here, but do not touch this. A man begins to feel like a kind of inexperienced puppy, with only one desire in his head – to get away from the trainer as soon as possible. Therefore, leave all possible wishes for later – even if your intimate meeting did not bring you the expected pleasure.The process of grinding in partners can be quite lengthy – and this is not abnormal.

                                  React. The game of love is a game of partners, do not forget about it. No man will like it if his beloved manifests herself in this game as an “insensible log”. By the way, this is one of the most common reasons for a man’s cooling after a couple or two of intimate meetings. “Noisy” accompaniment of the process is very desirable – but, again, without fanaticism. Too loud moans, too noisy aspiration can give a man a reason to doubt the truth of your feelings.And mistrust is not conducive to fueling passion.

                                  Do not disturb your partner. Every woman loves to talk. However, in bed, you should not bore your partner with conversations, even if you sooooo want to tell him something or find out something from him. A man who is tuned in to a love game simply will not be able to connect to the conversation. At best, he will mutter something unintelligible, and at worst, he will lose interest in the process. This is how the representatives of the stronger sex are arranged – at the moment they can only do one thing.

                                  Be grateful. Many men are waiting for your assessment of their sexual prowess – even if they don’t admit it. By the way, many of them regard the flight of the partner as soon as they unclenched their arms into the shower as an indirect acknowledgment of your displeasure. Sexologists say that a man is very pleased when he is kissed, hugged, whispered in his ear words of gratitude for the moments of passion he experienced. So don’t make your loved one worry, especially if your goal is to please a man in bed.Believe me, he will certainly appreciate it – and you will be the most desirable and seductive for him.

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                                  90,000 ᐉ How to give a man real pleasure: blowjob technique

                                  How to give a man real pleasure: blowjob technique

                                  Talking about oral sex is necessary and important, because it is an integral part of a healthy sex life. Today we will talk about the blowjob technique, relieving you of any constraints that prevent you from enjoying each other.

                                  It makes no sense to deny that men expect from intimacy not only foreplay with kisses, but also oral sex.

                                  For them, this is a part of full-fledged sex, I miss which, women deprive not only their partner of pleasure, but also themselves. After all, those who do not like oral sex, in fact, know very little about it. We get rid of any constraint and stiffness by learning the blowjob technique.

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                                  In order to give pleasure to a partner, it is not necessary to pounce on him in a hurry.To begin with, you will slowly lick your partner’s penis, while lightly massaging the testicles – such actions excite men, setting him up for what will be even better. Then you need to go to the head, in a circular motion, drive your tongue along the rim and play tickle it.

                                  As soon as you feel that arousal increases, take the penis in your mouth and start shaking your head back and forth. After a while, squeeze the penis with your hand and, exposing the head, begin to lick it.The pace is set by you and your partner, who reacts to caresses – this can be a light stroking with your tongue or more persistent touches.

                                  It is necessary to cover as much of the groin area as possible, this is a kind of massage, so that the blood begins to actively rush to the penis. Therefore, pay attention to the penis, and the scrotum, and the perineal area. Completing the blowjob, you can clasp the head with your lips and touch the very tip of the head with your tongue. These actions will bring the partner to the home stretch.

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                                  A few more words about the variety of equipment. Popsicle – cover your teeth with your lips, pull down the skin on its dignity with your fingers, hold it firmly in your hands, and then begin to make the movements with your tongue that you do when you eat ice cream. Pilesos – the whole point of such a technique is that you pull the manhood into your mouth up to half, and then, still without weakening the vacuum, pull it out of your mouth.

                                  This bilateral tension is very exciting.Rotation – Moisten your lips, fold them around the head, and begin to slowly move it along the frenum line from side to side, like you have a lollipop in your mouth. Such stimulation can cause a man to have a strong orgasm.

                                  In addition to the pleasure of oral sex, a man loves to receive a decent visual series, which further provokes him.

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