Groom vest only: Did your groom wear JUST a vest?


Did your groom wear JUST a vest?

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751 posts

Busy bee

My Fiance saw these pictures, and now is set on wearing a vest-only, with a bow tie. I think it’s fine, our wedding is going to be a backyard ceremony, lots of wildflowers and such. But I was wondering, has anyone else’s Fiance done the vest-only look? Pros and Cons? Opinions? 


Post # 2


1939 posts

Buzzing bee

We did the vest only look! I loved it honestly. I always think the guys look so uncomfortable in their photos when they have jackets on so I was super pleased :] Here’s a funny non-pro photo of the boys, they look silly!


Post # 3


1391 posts

Bumble bee

We did black vests, white shirts & red ties.

I loved the look on the guys!! The guys seemed to enjoy it too – most of them said they usually sweat in their suits at weddings so it was nice to just wear a shirt & vest. We wanted a more laid-back feel to our wedding too and I think the vest-only look helped achieve that.

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Post # 4


30399 posts

Honey Beekeeper

LadyMoriarty:  I got  mental picture of a groom with just a vest and bow tie! I am sure that’s not what you meant.

If he adds a shirt and pants, it wil be a great look.


Post # 5


2274 posts

Buzzing bee


Pros: Playful, and casual.  Trendy.  May make the groom happy.  Is not quite as hot as a jacket.


Removes many of the sartorial benefits of wearing a complete suit of clothes, which took many decades to establish, and perfect. (I can elaborate if you want)<br />Is very current, and will look dated in photographs (“Wow aren’t our wedding pictures so teens?” you’ll say later – you may or may not care about this)<br />Is a less mature look – not necessarily younger, but less mature.<br />It has limited usefulness after the fact, if you are purchasing, and don’t also buy the matching jacket.<br /><br />

Some  notes on wearing a vest, in the traditional sense.  The vest should always completely cover the waistband of the pants (hence their proper name, waistcoats) but not go much farther.  Vests are meant to be worn with side-tabs, or suspenders, not belts, as belts produce an unsightly bulge.  That is, of course, in the context of wearing the waistcoat as part of a suit.  If you’re after the trendy/hipster thing, break rules as you please.


Post # 6


109 posts

Blushing bee

Due to the grooms tux not being in the bag he was the only one in a vest. Originally all the guys were supposed to wear just vests but they had to improvise. 



Post # 7


99 posts

Worker bee

Our groomsmen are wearing vests and my fiance is wearing a vest and sportscoat. 


Post # 8


751 posts

Busy bee

julies1949:  LOL!! Oops 🙂 Yes, there will definitely be pants and a shirt. Reply

Post # 9


1262 posts

Bumble bee

  • Wedding: October 2014 – Church
LadyMoriarty:  I find it very casual, so it depends what you are going for. My man of honour will be in a suit and Fiance and the rest of the guys will be in morning suits. Reply

Post # 10


2748 posts

Sugar bee

Our groomsman/bridesmen are wearing just vests and Fi is wearing a jacket for the ceremony only. We went with these vests because we thought they looked a bit more formal, but will still keep our guys from totally melting in the August heat.


Post # 11


677 posts

Busy bee

My groom and his groomsmen are doing grey pants, ivory shirt, grey vest..the groomsmen will have turquoise ties and the groom will have ivory. Our wedding is country/rustic and is outside in Oklahoma in June! I wouldn’t ask my soon-to-be hubby to wear a jacket in that heat!


Post # 12


292 posts

Helper bee

Eckle: That’s very nice, I like it a lot!   Reply

Post # 13


519 posts

Busy bee

Eckle:  wow I love that look!  My Fiance would love to wear that. Reply

Post # 14


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We are gettin married in a barn so a tux or morning suit would look so out of place! The guys are all wearing what they want! My other half is wearing smart jeans, white cotton shirt, oxblood red 100% wool waistcoat and a dickie bow 🙂 he looks amazing it in and it all really suits him! I say go with what suits the day and suits your man, don’t force to wear a suit if he will be uncomfortable.


Post # 15


900 posts

Busy bee

I told my partner that he could wear whatever he wanted, including a suit of armor, jeans and a t-shirt, or his birthday suit.  He just has to show up. 


Why you should add a Suit Vest to your Wedding Day Look

Why you should add a Suit Vest to your Wedding Day Look? The foremost question that we ask while dealing with a client is whether they have considered adding a vest to their wedding day attire. Even though it is overlooked, it could still make a huge difference in the outcome. It has always been seen to enhance the look of the person on their big day. Some of the great ideas to add a vest on the wedding day attire are discussed below. 

Use a Vest to Stand Out as the Groom

There are plenty of ways how a vest can enhance the results of wearing it on the wedding day as for the groom. Initially, the groom would be the only one wearing a vest as his three-piece suit on the wedding day. On the other hand, the rest of the men and groomsmen would only wear a suit jacket and pants. In this way, the groom will be highlighted among the boys, and it would add on the formality with his significant other; the bride. On top of that, if the groom takes off his jacket after the ceremony to chill out and for a casual interaction as well as for hip-hop dance, he would still look classical and chivalrous, as he would be the only one having it on him. This is why it’s great to spend the entire wedding party wearing vests.


Apart from that, the groomsmen always keep the jackets on till they are up for the pictures. For the rest of the event, they take the jackets off and start to have fun around. Although it looks pretty upbeat to make your guys wear the vests so that they could be distinguished from the rest of the crowd and know to be the groom’s squad. 

The other way to make the groom be the limelight of the ceremony is that if he is to be wearing a different colored suit. The groomsmen could wear the suit color of the groom’s vest, or they could wear a vest of the groom’s suit color as he would be wearing the matching three-piece suit. 

READ: Top 5 Mistakes Men Make When Buying a Suit

A Little Something Extra for Warm Weather Weddings 

It is usually observed that when the weather is hot, the jacket from the attire is taken off. It has seen to be pretty comfortable for the guys to chill out in the sun during the wedding party. Wearing a vest could actually help to set in the vibe for the chic kind of wedding which the whole wedding party wants. This could go for daytime garden weddings as well as the rustic weddings. As they are thin, and they also give a formal look, it would be the best option to go for in order to stay formal as well as being comfortable. And for that, to add more casual-formalness within the vest-look, the groom could unbutton the first button of the vest and could look like he is having the time of his life. 

If the person wants to stay without a jacket but wants to keep the boutonnieres in the suit, we would recommend you to add boutonnieres or suspenders on your vest for that purpose. At the end of the day, it is a wedding that everyone wants to enjoy and want to look their best while making memories. So it is better to have fun while keeping your classic game on and enjoy the rest of the day as it goes on. 

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Suit vests are slimming

The guys who have heavy bodies sometimes assume that they might look bulkier if they go for the vest in their attire. However, it is actually the opposite. The dark colors like navy and black in the vest usually help to make the other person seem slimmer. They tend to look much better with a vest on because it pretty much keeps the game-high and makes you look much stylish if you have a great body. The heavier the body would be, the better the vest would look on the person. It is high in fashion and enriches your look with vintage vibes. Other than that, it helps to keep the shirt intact with the body and make you look perfect without having a loose look of the groom while he dances.

Most of the time, the grooms tend to get confused while making a decision for their wedding look. Also, you get so many choices and opinions that it gets difficult that which one to choose from. We are always ready to help you out from the look to the little accessories and details you want to focus on for your wedding day look. All you got to do is send an email of the questions, photos, or anything that goes through your mind and let us do your guardian angel.  

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Groom Wedding Attire Trends from this Year

Tips and TrendsWedding Inspo | January 21, 2021

At Maggie Sottero Designs we obviously love brides, and we obviously love wedding dresses. But every so often we get really, really excited about new stuff for grooms. So this post is one for the boys, featuring stylish suits, boutonniere pairings, tie colors, and other sharp stuff for their best day ever. Scroll on to see our 2020 trends for grooms wedding attire!

Rustic Groom Attire: Blue Suit with Colorful Tie and Wildflower Boutonniere

PC: Chantel Marie Photography

If the bride has chosen a chic lace wedding dress (á la sleeved style Deirdre by Maggie Sottero, featuring soft Chantilly lace and illusion details), consider an equally breezy vibe for the groom.

A woven suit in dark blue is more laid-back and playful than a black-tie ensemble. And it goes well with a delicate and nature-inspired aesthetic. Add a wildflower-patterned tie and a twine-wrapped pin, and you two will be ready to ride into the sunset with zero drama!

Unique Attire for a Citrus Wedding: Light Maroon Suit with Yellow Boutonniere

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Groom attire typically leans toward the blue and black spectrums for their classic versatility, but that doesn’t mean you should treat them as your only option!

This inspirational color block wedding features a light maroon suit alongside its bright palettes. It’s a stylish complement to the bride’s striking minimalist wedding dress, Alice by Rebecca Ingram.

Classic Groom Attire for a Winter Wedding: Black Suit and Tie

PC: Jessa E. Photography

A black suit and tie combo is a classic and timeless choice for groom wedding attire. We dig this groom’s chic look, complete with a boutonniere featuring blush blooms and burgundy accents.

The groom’s wintery yet versatile look goes perfectly with our bride’s lace cap-sleeve wedding gown, Tuscany Leigh by Maggie Sottero, and is perfect for a variety of locales. For more classy and modern winter wedspo, check out this couple’s rustic-chic wedding.

Attire for Country Club Wedding: White Tuxedo Coat with Black Pants

PC: Erika Diaz Photography

For a ritzy and formal vibe, consider an all-white tuxedo coat paired with black pants. This ensemble is one part James-Bond-inspired and one part Humphrey-Boghart-classic, and looks very cool for a country club venue, garden soiree, or manor celebration.

Just be sure to match the white or off-white exactly to the bride’s wedding dress color. (This particular bride is wearing Antonia by Maggie Sottero, which complements the warm ivory tone in the groom’s vest and jacket.)

Spring Wedding Attire: Blue Suit with Green and Lavender Accents

PC: Rachel Laxton Photography

Blue suits come in a wide variety of blue colorways. So why go with a dull or toned down hue? For this whimsical spring wedding, our groom strayed from traditional navy and sported a bright blue suit. It accented his bride’s lace wedding dress, Mallory Dawn by Maggie Sottero, perfectly!

We especially love how this groom’s blue suit contrasts his groomsmen’s grey suits. And their green and lavender boutonnieres totally their look together!

Casual Look for Intimate Elopement: White Dress Shirt with Black Jeans

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If you’re dreaming of a destination elopement or simply an intimate elopement with close friends, opt for a casual tone in your groom’s wedding attire. Ditch the suit jacket, and instead try a clean white dress shirt with rolled up sleeves for a casual flair. And don’t forget the black jeans!

To tie this semi-formal look together, your groom can wear a statement belt. And our boho lace wedding dress, Deirdre by Maggie Sottoro, is sure to be a great complement to your groom’s dashing look!

Groom Attire for Romantic Wedding: Black Suit with Blush Tie

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This advice applies to brides and grooms equally—when in doubt, go for pink! This wedding-ready color is an ultra-stylish choice for groom and groomsmen accessories, from ties and boutonnieres to socks and cuff links.

Get inspired with this groom’s classic yet captivating black and white ensemble with pink tie, paired oh-so-perfectly with his bride’s couture Celeste wedding dress by Maggie Sottero. The look is timeless yet charming, and works with virtually any venue and season.

Laid-back Wedding Attire: Blue Suit with Blush Tie

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Another classic take on the pink-inspired spectrum is a blue suit with a light blush tie. Try this smart combo for laid-back and on-trend weddings. These elegant colors look great against natural backdrops and garden locales, as well as adapt easily to classic indoor venues or city celebrations.

Check out this dreamy Moab desert wedding shoot for groom wedding attire inspo (paired with our boho-chic Narissa wedding dress from Sottero and Midgley). This groom’s attire is a fresh and light choice for summer. And his suit would also look dapper in tan, grey, or pale blue!

Holiday Wedding Attire for Grooms: Maroon Suit with Black Bow Tie

PC: Vanessa Hicks Photography

For a bold and dashing look, consider a velvet tux in a ruby colorway with a white shirt and bow tie. We’re getting major holiday vibes from this groom’s ensemble, a snazzy complement to his bride’s Armante wedding dress from our Sottero and Midgley line.

This tux’s versatile colorway would also look fantastic for simply a New Years or winter celebration. And it would also pair fantastically with a vintage-inspired soiree or a ballroom dance party!

Groom Attire for Multicultural Wedding: Change-Up Between Black Suit and Traditional Sherwani

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If you and your sweetheart are planning to incorporate some measure of Indian customs into your wedding, you may be looking at one or more outfit changes over the course of the day. (And hey, what’s wrong with that?) This groom opted for two wedding looks. These included a black-tie suit for the Western-inspired civil ceremony and traditional Sherwani for the main event.

We’re swooning over this gorgeous bi-cultural celebration! (And in case you’re wondering, the bride’s white wedding dress is Tuscany Lynette by Maggie Sottero. It’s is a captivating complement to her traditional Indian gown in light gold and blue.)

Formal Wedding Attire: Dark Blue Suit with White Vest

PC: Arielle Peters Photography

For a formal ensemble that’s not quite black tie, consider a dark blue, perfectly tailored suit with a white shirt and vest. This crisp and high-contrast combo looks fantastic for a traditional church ceremony, manor venue party, or country club celebration decked out in classic florals and elegant décor.

Your groomsmen will also love this style in pink—it’s versatile, flattering, and super suave. And for an equally timeless aesthetic for the bride, consider our lace ball gown wedding dress Allison, affordably priced from our Rebecca Ingram line.

There you have it—our favorite 2020 trends for grooms wedding attire! Before you go, remember a few rules for finding the perfect suit. Dress for the occasion’s season and formality, coordinate with your partner’s attire, personalize with accessories, and above all, get yourself a tailor!

When it comes to formal wear, there are few things more disappointing than an ill-fitting suit piece, be it an over-sized jacket, baggy pants, or overly restrictive hemming. Get inspired with more perfectly tailored groom and groomsmen attire on our Pinterest page!

And finally, to our happy couples who have already tied the knot, be sure to submit your gorgeous gown and suit inspiration to our Real Weddings page for the chance to be featured on our website, social media, and blog. We’re loving your personalized wedding-day looks!

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It’s your day to look dapper AF.

Generation Tux

Here Comes The Guide is an entirely female company—so we gotta admit: Knowing the ins and outs of wedding suits and tuxes isn’t exactly our forte. That’s why we reached out to our friends at Generation Tux to get some comprehensive info for our grooms, groomsmen, and gals that prefer pantsuits to petticoats.

They answer all your wedding attire-related questions below, from “What’s the difference between a suit and a tuxedo?” to “What accessories do I need?” Get ready to look like you just stepped outta the pages of GQ, my friend.

Wedding Suit or Tux?

Ah, the age-old groom’s attire dilemma: Should you stick with a wedding suit, or go all out with a tuxedo?

If you’re not sure, a good rule of thumb is to follow your partner’s lead! If they’ve chosen a formal gown or tuxedo themselves, then match their look with a tux. It’s up to you as a couple to set the vibe (and dress code!) you want for your wedding. Here are some of the differences to consider when it comes to choosing a suit vs. a tux:


Suits are typically made from one fabric (no satin detailing here!) and can be dressed up or down with a plethora of accessories. Get creative with a colored collared shirt, vest, belt, patterned tie, and matching socks and you’ll look sharp when you step onto that aisle! Suits are available in two-piece or three-piece styles (pictured below), and are perfect for a wedding that’s slightly more casual or taking place early in the day.

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  • Formal
  • Traditional
  • Timeless

Satin details are the main thing that sets tuxedos apart from suits—besides the formality, of course. Tuxes have satin lapels, satin-covered buttons, and a satin stripe down each pant leg. There are no belt loops, so suspenders are used instead of a belt. You can opt for a long tie, but you may have noticed that tuxes are usually worn with a bow tie—hey, you don’t want to cover up the snazzy studs on your white dress shirt! Get cufflinks to match those shirt studs, and you’ll be ready for your close-up.

Bottom line: Opt for a tuxedo if your wedding is a formal or black-tie evening affair, and stick with a suit for a more casual or daytime event. That said, there’s no hard and fast rule—so if YOU just want to feel fancy go ahead and strut that tux no matter what type of wedding you’re having!

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To Rent or To Buy? THAT is the question.

Let’s talk about tuxedo vs. suit when it comes to price. Tuxedos are typically rented instead of purchased since—let’s face it—they’re expensive. And how many times will you really wear a tux in your lifetime? A suit is more reasonably priced (in most cases) and you’ll probably wear it again, but when you throw in all the accessories to complete your wedding-day look, things can really add up!

If you’re concerned about your budget or you’re asking your groomsmen to wear specific attire, renting is the way to go. Here’s why:

  • Renting is more affordable. Buying a high-quality suit can cost several hundred dollars (and a tuxedo up to $1,000 or more!), while renting your wedding-day attire significantly slashes the price tag.
  • Your groomsmen will match. Pro tip: No two white shirts are the same. Renting identical suits or tuxes and accessories ensures that all of your groomsmen will be perfectly coordinated. No slightly-off colors or noticeably different shoes making a cameo in your wedding photos!
  • It saves closet space. Purchasing a suit? You have to store it in a garment bag, which takes up precious closet space. Your groomsmen will thank you when they can pack up their suits/tuxes and send them back at the end of the day.

Whether you purchase or rent, you’ll want to ensure a proper fit. Most brick-and-mortar shops offer measuring and custom tailoring, while Generation Tux uses a proprietary fit technology with free home try-on and free, immediate replacements!

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Basic Black or Pop of Color?

If your wedding will be white-tie or black-tie, you’ll want to wear basic black. For all other events, it’s totally your call! Here are some things to consider:

Black Wedding Suits or Tuxes

  • Black is traditional and timeless. You really can’t go wrong with it.
  • Black goes with everything. If you’re not confident you’ll be able to match your ‘cobalt blue’ color scheme perfectly, then stick with black—it’s the ultimate neutral that complements what everyone else is wearing.
  • The groom and groomsmen can wear multiple styles. If you decide to go the tuxedo route, you can wear different style lapels to reflect the groomsmen’s personalities (shawl, peak, and notch are a few options) and still look cohesive. A groom can also stand out by wearing a tuxedo while the groomsmen wear black suits.

Colorful Wedding Suits or Tuxes

  • Color makes a statement! Weddings should be a celebration of a couple’s style. Pick a suit or accessories in fun, fresh colors that show off your personality. Even a midnight blue or charcoal gray tuxedo can shake things up a bit!
  • You can mix and match tones. Use varying shades of the same color to set your look apart. For example, the groom could wear a bright blue suit while the groomsmen don navy. You can accomplish the same thing with gray. It’s a subtle twist that can distinguish the roles of members in your party and add versatility to the overall look.
  • Coordinating with your partner is a snap. It’s important to coordinate your wedding-day look with your partner’s and adding some color is an easy way to do it. A tan suit would complement an ivory lace dress perfectly, but a coral tie that matches her Coral Charm Peony bouquet would really put you on the same harmonious page.

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What Accessories Do Grooms Need?

A fun (and totally optional!) way to inject some style into your wedding-day look is with accessories! Both suits and tuxedos can be customized, and here are just a few ways to spruce them up:

Dress Shirts

Dress shirts for suits come in every color and pattern under the sun, and even shirts for tuxedos are available in multiple styles—from plain and pleated fronts to a variety of collars and cuffs. Remember to think about which style tie you prefer before shopping for your shirt.


Adding a vest changes your look from a two-piece suit to a three-piece suit. Also referred to as a waistcoat, it’s an easy way to add a colorful pattern to your suited ensemble.


Cummerbunds are a tuxedo accessory that cover the waist, and are worn with a single-breasted jacket. Traditionally, men don’t wear cummerbunds with long ties.


Suspenders not only pump up your style, they also keep your pants firmly in place while you dance the night away!


The type of belt you choose usually depends on the color of your suit. Traditionally, a black suit requires a black belt. If you choose a blue suit, though, a brown belt can look terrific. (Just be sure to match your shoes to your belt, since a wedding is a more formal occasion.)

Pocket Squares

A pocket square is basically a handkerchief tucked into a suit jacket pocket. It’s yet another opportunity to color coordinate!


Cufflinks are like jewelry for your dress shirt cuffs. If you’re wearing a tuxedo, the cufflinks should match the shirt studs. For a suit, you can get as creative as you like. Beer cap cufflinks, anyone?


The typical black tuxedo tie or bow tie look is perfect for formal events…but ties come in every color and pattern imaginable, so have fun finding the one.


Although socks are usually pretty invisible, it’s a real kick to see a quirky, patterned sock peek out from under a pant leg!

Generation Tux

While Generation Tux has provided a lot of useful information, in the end it all comes down to your personal style and level of comfort. Because no matter what you wear, as long as you’re confident, there’s really no such thing as a fashion faux pas!

Intrigued by online wedding suit and tuxedo rentals? Check out Generation Tux to see how they’ve revolutionized the formalwear rental process.

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The Style Guide for 2021

Chris Easter

While things can go wrong on the wedding day, it’s important to understand what you can control and what you can’t. One of the things you can control is ensuring that the wedding party and your wedding attire is ordered and ready in time for the big day.

Picking out a suit or tuxedo for your wedding day doesn’t have to be difficult. The biggest challenge is that most men often don’t consider the type of tux they want until they walk into the tux shop. But if you ask yourself a few questions ahead of time, you can make it a pretty easy process. Our 2021 guide will walk you through the most important aspects when it comes to wedding attire for grooms and how you can look your best on your important day.

Should You Wear A Tux Or Suit?

Talk to your fiancée about the formality of your wedding. A formal wedding almost always calls for the groom and groomsmen to wear tuxedos. However, for a semiformal wedding, a dark suit with an off-white shirt is a popular choice, and khaki or white suits are often good choices for summer or destination weddings.

Quality Always Wins

You can always tell the difference between a tailored suit or tux and one that is off the rack. Be it the lining, the stitching, the fabric the garment is made of, and most of the time, the fit itself. If you are renting, go to a higher-end rental place, forget Moore’s rentals and the “booklet” people. Go to a place that has stock on-site and will let you try stuff on.

NEVER, EVER order sight unseen! If you’ve decided to get married in a suit, buy a new suit for the wedding, a custom suit, just for you. I suggest Indochino, I get all my suits from here and I can say, they do good work. You can wear that suit after your wedding, unlike the dress that gets wrapped in plastic and stuck in a box. So spend a little extra on it. You’ll have it for a long time.

Gutsy Groom Advice

At your wedding you should be the best-dressed guy in the room, nay…you MUST be! So do your research, look into various styles, look at both suits and tuxes as options. Research the colors and accessories and go shoe shopping. Never wear rental shoes!

Try EVERYTHING on! If you’re thinking about wearing it on your wedding day, try it on beforehand. Put on the full look, down to the cufflinks and socks. If you’re wearing sunglasses for an outdoor ceremony, put those on with the outfit. Although, they may not look as good with a suit as they do with a beer and board shorts. Finally, make sure they fit properly. Sunglasses should fit the frame of your face, not hang off the side.

When Should the Groom Start Looking For a Tux or Suit?

Once the bridesmaids’ dresses have been selected, you should start the process of choosing your wedding attire. Up to this point, the colors haven’t yet been chosen, so you’ll need to wait to choose the colors of your vest and tie. As much as you might think the tux colors will drive the whole color scheme for the wedding, that’s most often far from true. This step should usually happen no later than four to six months before the wedding.

Rent or Buy?

Estimate how many events where you might be able to wear the attire in the future to justify the purchase. If you don’t expect to wear it again within the next couple of years, it will save you money to rent instead of purchase.

Of course, if you opt to purchase your tux or suit, there’s no doubt that you’ll feel great in your attire, and that will show in your posture. Our only advice is that if you’re going to buy, make sure that you go with something traditional so that it will be in style for years to come.

However, remember that if you rent, you’ll most likely only spend about a third of the cost of buying a new suit or tux. This way, you also won’t feel obligated to wear it again, if your attire choice changes or goes out of style in the next few years.

TMR Choice: Rent. In most cases, it will save both time and money.

Where Can the Groom Rent a Tux or Suit?

The best option for locating a tux or suit rental store is to ask your friends and family for a recommendation or try an online search. It’s important to be comfortable with the company and its services to make sure they’re adequately equipped to accommodate your requests up to a couple of days before the wedding.

How Do You Pick a Tuxedo For a Wedding?

For a semiformal wedding, you’ll usually want to wear a dark tuxedo with a bow tie, cummerbund, or vest. If you’re going with a dark suit, wear it with a white or off-white shirt during the spring, fall, and winter months. A khaki or white suit is acceptable during the summer months.

For a formal wedding, you can never go wrong with a black tuxedo, white shirt, bow tie or necktie, pocket square, and a vest. Depending on how traditional the wedding is, you might also consider tailcoats and a cummerbund.

I love wearing a tuxedo; there is just a feeling about putting one on. Most grooms just go for the standard tux no matter what kind of wedding they are having. But this doesn’t have to be single or double-breasted. 2 or 3 piece…3 piece comes with a vest or waistcoat. Then we get into the tails (not a fav of mine) or the Morning Coat (I do like this one). The Morning Coat is a very British look (in my humble opinion) and I really like it, plus it gives you an excuse to wear an ascot.

It’s up to you what you decide on, but these are the options for a Black Tie or Formal wedding. If you are having a black-tie wedding, I suggest including some text on the invitation stating this, so your guests know there will be a dress code. So…there are so many choices for a black-tie wedding. You have the standard tuxedo, but you can get a 1, 2, or 3 (and so on) button jacket.

When Should the Groom Pick Up the Tux Before the Wedding?

About two days before the wedding, you and the wedding party will need to pick up your tuxedos (the store will provide you with a pickup date). Remember: It’s very important to try it on to ensure that you’ll have ample time for any necessary alterations or to correct size mix-ups.

Check for all of the appropriate pieces and accessories that should be included with your tux, such as a bowtie or regular tie, a cummerbund or vest, cufflinks, and shoes. Although it might be funny for your groomsmen, you don’t want to end up looking like the fat guy in a little coat.

TMR Recommendation: Most tuxedo rental shops will give you one free rental for signing your wedding party up. It is common etiquette to give the free rental to your future father-in-law. After all, he has footed the bill for your wedding. Giving him a free tux rental is the least you can do to thank him.

Which Suit is Best For a Wedding?

If you have decided to pass on the tuxedo option and you’re looking for a suit, there are limitless options for you. Colors, styles, cuts and so on. It will all depend on what YOU want, and what your bride says you want (Kidding!) Listen to her, but when it comes down to it, you have to wear it and you have to be comfortable in it.

A well-made suit can look amazing! If you can’t get a tailor-made one, then buy off the rack and have it altered just for you.

We highly recommend Indochino for all your formalwear needs. I own some of their stuff and it is fantastic! Also, it’s not really that expensive. Have a look at your wedding colors. I suggest getting a neutral-ish suit (no wild colors) and adding the color and flair with the tie, shirt, and of course the pocket square. A black, charcoal, or navy suit will look great and you can wear it again after the wedding.

What Color Should Be Used For the Vest or Tie?

If you’re considering deviating from the standard black and off-white, it’s very important to get the bride’s input. If your fiancée doesn’t go with you to pick out your attire, be sure to ask her the following questions:

  • What color is your wedding dress? If it’s white, make sure you know if it’s white or off-white. This information is imperative if you want your vest and/or tie to match the bride’s wedding dress.
  • What are our wedding colors?
  • Could you show me a picture or give me a sample of our wedding colors, so I can take them into the store?
  • What are the colors of the bridesmaids’ dresses? Samples?


Luxury menswear does not have to break the bank; on average the cost of a custom-tailored suit is between $700 and $1000. Considering that renting a tuxedo can cost you $200, this option is reasonable and has the luxury of having a perfectly fitted and custom styled suit that becomes a permanent part of your wardrobe.

The Process

The process typically takes two consultations and can be done at a location of your choice. You can have your groomsmen over to your house to relax, have a few beers, and watch football. During the first visit, you’ll decide on fabrics and cuts, and you will have your measurements taken. Following this visit, your garments will arrive in approximately four weeks. The next visit is to present the outfit and make sure the clothes fit properly.

Size Does Matter

It’s a pretty simple concept, but it’s also simple to screw this up because a lot of guys don’t know exactly what to look for. A well-tailored suit will make you look a million times better than a suit you pulled off the rack at the department store.

When choosing your shirts and suits make sure that the shoulder seams fall on your shoulders. A collar on a dress shirt should fit snugly around your neck, not too tight though. If you can fit more than one finger between you and your collar, that neck size is not the right one for you.

With the pants, a pant worn lower will elongate your torso, I like this look and it works for me. A higher waistline will make your torso appear shorter and more stocky. A jacket that drapes low on you will give you the appearance of having shorter legs, but a shorter cut on the jacket will make them appear longer. It’s important to try on a few different styles to make sure you get the right one for you.

Style and Sand

Destination weddings have always been popular. Sadly most of the destination wedding photos I see are all the same, khakis and a white shirt. Just because you don’t want a formal wedding and it’s a little warmer on the beach doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice the style and look like everyone else. You can still rock the suit, it doesn’t have to be black, of course not.

Try light grey linen, a pale blue, maybe you go plaid or striped, or go all out and sport a skinny fit white suit. You don’t have to even wear a jacket.

How Soon Do Groomsmen Need to Get Fitted?

If possible, schedule a group fitting for you and the wedding party four to six months before the wedding. No one likes walking into a tux shop to waste 30 minutes of their day. A group fitting allows all of the guys to get together and of course, to also make fun of the groom.

A second fitting can be scheduled, if necessary, but usually, those who can’t make the first fitting can stop by any tux shop, have their measurements taken, and email them in to the local store.

How Does the Groom Know If Everyone in the Wedding Party Has Been Measured?

A few weeks before the tux shop’s fitting deadline, remind the wedding party that they need to be measured and give them a “fake” deadline that’s a few days before the real deadline to help ensure that any habitually late people will still make the actual deadline. Then, call the tux shop to make sure that they have received everyone’s measurements a few days before the deadline.

The shop’s deadline is usually two months before the scheduled pickup; otherwise, the shop can’t guarantee that the tuxedos will be available for the wedding date.

When Should the Groom Verify That the Tux Shop Has Everything They Need?

One month before the wedding, call the tux shop to verify the pickup date, time, and that they have everyone’s deposits.

How Can the Groom Stand Out From the Groomsmen?

While back in the day it was traditional for the wedding party to wear identical clothing, today it’s completely acceptable and practiced for the groom to differentiate himself. A couple of ways to accomplish this is to wear a different colored vest and tie; or for a more subtle approach, wear a slightly different boutonnière.

You can also help your guys accessorize by gifting them items such as cufflinks or ties.

Need a little help on what to think about when choosing what to wear for you and your best friends on your big day? Keep these tidbits in mind when picking out groomsmen’s attire.

Formal or Unique?

Tuxedos and a uniformed color scheme is the traditional view of a wedding, but times are changing. Converse shoes can replace dress shoes and a pair of khakis and a white shirt can substitute for a suit and tie all depending on your personal style.

What is your style? Do you want a traditional wedding where all your groomsmen wear tuxedos or do you want them in superhero costumes? Knowing what type of wedding you want will help in choosing the attire for the entire wedding party.

Realizing your theme or style will be the base of your entire event.

Budget Concerns

As much as you don’t want to mention it, how much things cost is an issue at every wedding, and not just for the bride and groom. In the case of groomsmen attire, some couples choose to rent tuxes for their groomsmen while others let their friend’s foot the bill. It is important to consider everyone’s financial input to your wedding.

You don’t want your best friends not to be in your wedding because they can’t afford it nor do you want to take on more expenses than what is in your budget. Some inexpensive wedding ideas include:

  • Let groomsmen wear their own suits instead of renting tuxes.
  • Go for a more casual look by having them only wear the same color shirts or ties.
  • Go online. You can find almost anything online, and usually for less.
  • Rent tuxes as a group. A lot of places have group discounts.
  • Let the guys wear their own shoes instead of renting them.

Simple changes such as these can save you and your bridal party a bundle.

Time to Shine

In a room full of suits and ties, how does a groom not blend in with the rest? After deciding what your style will be and what your budget is, making sure you stand out from your groomsmen is the next step. Besides the bride, you are the most important person of the day and it is your time to shine.

  • If in tuxedos, changing vest colors or designs will help designate you as the groom. Try going with a completely different color instead of just changing hues.
  • Going outside the norm, some men are choosing to wear a completely different color suit or tux than their groomsmen. This bold statement really makes the groom stand out amongst his friends.
  • Groomsmen in the wedding party will usually be wearing boutonnières. Although they all will be beautiful, the grooms could be a different flower and color than anyone else’s.

Remember these simple tips when it’s time to start thinking about what the men will be wearing in your wedding party. We all know your bride is going to stand out on the big day, make sure you are standing out with her.

Groom vs. Groomsmen Attire Q&A

Q: Is it improper for the groom to wear a double-breasted tux while the groomsmen wear two- or three-piece suits?

A. While I love fashion and have my own personal opinions regarding wedding attire, I’ll admit that I’m no Tim Gunn (if you haven’t heard of him, ask your fiancée). But I believe that your wedding day is an occasion where you and your fiancée should feel free to make your own decisions about your attire. Regardless of whether it’s “proper,” if there’s something you really want to wear on your wedding day, and your fiancée approves, go for it.

However, I realize that you don’t want to end up looking like a fool on your big day by making a major fashion faux-pas. This is definitely a question you should discuss with your wedding day attire/tux or suit shop vendor as well as your fiancée. Your tux vendor should be an expert in this area and can help guide you in the right direction, keeping the type and formality of your wedding ceremony in mind.

Personally, I think it really depends on the tux and suits you select. If the fabrics match nicely and the styles are very similar, it could end up looking great. However, if the fabrics and styles don’t mesh well together, the whole look could appear off or sloppy, which you definitely want to avoid. Talk it over with your tux vendor.

If he or she believes that you can seamlessly blend the two styles, and your fiancée is on board as well, why not go for it? But if you’re still not 100 percent sure that the combo works, consider having all of the guys wear either tuxes or suits, instead of a combination of both, to create a cleaner, more streamlined (and classic) look.

Either way, you (the groom) should definitely find a way to stand out from your groomsmen in terms of your wedding day attire. After all, the bride will certainly stand out from her bridesmaids, and the groom is no different. If you decide that wearing a tux while your bros wear suits isn’t the way to do that, there are plenty of other options to consider.

For example, think about wearing a different colored shirt or tie than your groomsmen. This can be as simple as having the groomsmen wear colored ties to match the bridesmaids’ dresses while you wear a white or off-white tie (to coordinate with your bride’s gown), or the groomsmen could all wear light-colored shirts and you could wear a white one.

Or, depending on your wedding colors, you could wear a tie in a brighter shade or even a different, yet complementary, color than those of your groomsmen. Another way to stand out is to wear a tux or suit jacket that has satin or grosgrain lapels, while your groomsmen wear standard versions. Or consider wearing an ascot or pocket square (while the groomsmen don’t) or wear one in a brighter color than your groomsmen.

You can also stand out as the groom by wearing a different boutonniere than your groomsmen. Your boutonniere can either be made with different types of flowers, blooms in different colors, or be larger than those of your groomsmen so that everyone will instantly know that you’re the groom.

Whatever your decision, rock it. This is your day, and you should feel amazing in whatever you ultimately decide to wear. Cheers!

10 Ways to Style Your Groom (and his men) Vintage : Chic Vintage Brides

Groom & Groomsmen

10 Ways to Style Your Groom (and his men) Vintage

Today’s post is all about our Groom and his Groomsmen! Because when planning your wedding much attention and talk is of finding THE dress. However, the challenge of how to style your groom vintage, whilst retaining his unique personal style, can feel just as utterly overwhelming. We all want our groom and groomsmen to be waiting at the end of the aisle with sartorial elegance on our wedding day, and this post is here to help with 10 easy ways to style your groom (and his men) vintage…..

Long gone are the days where a groom’s only option is the traditional morning suit or tux, accessorised with a pocket handkerchief and cuff links. Oh no, today’s grooms are faced with options almost as endless as ours. I love that our men are now able, and wanting, to put their own stamp on their wedding day style. But with this increase in choice comes an increase in pressure to get it right, which can be daunting – especially for the groom who is happier in a sports kit than a suit! And even if your man has his suit all figured out, giving his look a suitably vintage vibe for your big day, can be just as much of a challenge. I have found the perfect looks, suits, accessories and finishing touches befitting of any vintage wedding, so sit back and take a look, see if these aren’t just the thing.

Waist Coats

Waist coats are the perfect vintage accessory – whatever the era, season or venue! Layered under a jacket, in matching or contrasting material, they look dapper and add some extra warmth for an Autumn or Winter wedding. Or they smarten up a simple shirt, whilst looking more casual than a jacket – and infinitely cooler for a Spring or Summer wedding…..

Photography ~ Bryce Covey via Style Me Pretty

 Redfield Photography via Green Wedding Shoes

Photography ~ When He Found Her via 100 Layer Cake

Photography Kelly Boitano via Style me Pretty

Laura Gordon Photography via Green Wedding Shoes

 Katherine Elizabeth Photography via Ruffled


Braces (or suspenders)

Whether functional or purely decorative, braces/suspenders (is there a difference?) are the accessory of choice for the more relaxed, rustic, casual wedding (Ryan Reynolds even had custom leather suspenders made for his wedding with Blake Lively) Match them to the shirt or suit for a smart subtle look, or be daring and choose a contrasting colour to the suit but match them to the ties, shirt or shoes. Oh and if he decides to go with a patterned pair be sure to keep the shirt plain.

Austin Gros Photographer via Wedding Chicks

Via I Love Farm Weddings

Photography ~ Joe & Patience via Green Wedding Shoes

Photography ~ Rylee Hitchner via Green Wedding Shoes

Of course, they look just as great at a smart, more formal, wedding worn as part of a tux….

Sarah Joelle Photography via Style Me Pretty

Photography by Mi Amore Foto via Style Me Pretty


Old World Fabrics

This is a statement look not for everyone, but tweeds, houndstooth and plaid are fun and stylish fabrics for a bold groom looking to channel his inner country gentleman! Even in a suit these textured textiles have the knack of looking more rustic and casual than formal; but at the same time, as the fabric of choice for the aristocracy (according to Downton Abbey) they suggest luxury and elegance…..

Photography ~ Christopher Currie via Love My Dress

Belle & Beau Photography

Photography ~ Studio 1079 via Green Wedding Shoes

Photogrpahy ~ Kari Bellamy via Rock My Wedding

Photography ~ Hayley Savage via Love My Dress

For a more subtle look you could just choose a waistcoat or accessory (like a scarf) – these fabrics are perfect for layering!…..

Ryan Ray Photography

Photography ~ Mark Tattersall via Boho Weddings

Pocket Watches

The perfect vintage accessory, the pocket watch works whatever your groom’s (or wedding’s) style. Such a simple addition it instantly gives some old world elegance to even the most modern of suits! Oh and they make a great gift for your groom – if he’s not lucky enough to have a family heirloom hidden away in a drawer somewhere.

Photography ~ Jessica Lorren via Snippet & Ink

Photography ~ Johnny Miller via Emmeline Bride

Photography ~ Teneil Kable via The Lane

Photography ~ Eric Kelley via Weddings Unveiled

Photography ~ i love that glove via The Wedding Chicks


Bow Ties

The bow tie is the epitome of vintage chic for any gent! Fashionable since the 18th century choose from floral, velvet, tweed or even sequinned for a smart look with a hint of fun…..

Photography ~ Laura Gordon via Magnolia Rouge

 Xavier Navarro and Marion Heurteboust Photography via Green Wedding Shoes

Photography by Marissa Lambert via Style Me Pretty

Clary Pfeiffer Photography via Wedding Chicks

Photography ~ Greg Finck via Style Me Pretty



A velvet suit might not be for everyone, but there is something about this plush fabric that evokes age, romance and opulence. It turns a traditional suit into something fancy that you simply won’t be able to keep your hands off! Perhaps a little warm for summer, but it would be perfect for an Autumn or Winter wedding…..

Photography ~ Kytography via Style Me Pretty

 Petronella Photography via Burnetts Boards

Photography ~ Adam Barnes via Wedding Chicks

Photography ~ Elizabeth Messina

Velvet is also the perfect fabric for smartening up casual trousers like jeans or chinos…..

Photography ~ Jen Huang via Grey Likes Weddings

Or if you like the idea of a touch of velvet, but aren’t sold on an entire suit or even a jacket, how about a velvet bowtie?

 Brushfire Photography via Elizabeth Anne Designs



Before the tie or bow tie came the cravat! Considered casual wear at the start of the 20th century, today it is the perfect alternative for a vintage groom looking for something just as dapper but a little different…..

Photography ~ Diana McGregor via Grey Likes Weddings

Jo Bartholomew Photography

Photography ~ Found Creative Studio via Green Wedding Shoes 

Photography ~ Samara Clifford via Polka Dot Bride

Photography ~ Erin McGinn



Whether Fedora, Bowler, Ivy or Boater (actually, I think the options may need a whole post all to themselves!) a hat looks seriously stylish…..and gives a groom some swagger!

 Red White and Green Photography via Ruffled

Hazelwood Photo via Wedding Chicks

Photography ~ Josh Gruetzmacher via Green Wedding Shoes

Amy Carlston Photography via Burnetts Boards

Photography ~ Love is a Big Deal via Green Wedding Shoes



Ladies, we all know that shoes make an outfit and it is no different for your groom. If there is one style of shoe that has old world style and sophistication written all over them it is the brogue. Originally worn as a country walking shoe in the early twentieth century, and considered inappropriate for occasions, today they are inextricably linked with the spectator shoes so fashionable in the 1920s and 1930s….

Photography ~ Ariel Renae via Style Me Pretty

Photography ~ Ali Harper via Southern Weddings

Photography ~ Tom Ravenshear via Love My Dress

 Rustic White Photography via Weddings Unveiled

Kristina Curtis Photography via Wedding Chicks


A Vintage Set of Wheels

Whether hired or borrowed, this is a vintage touch he is sure to love – and is guaranteed to give you some great photographs!

KT Merry Photography via Creative Wedding Story

Amanda Watson Photography via Burnetts Boards

Photography ~ Ali Harper via Southern Weddings

Christie Graham Photography via 100 Layer Cake

Photography ~ Anastasiya Belik via Wedding Dream

Ultimately, you want to find an accessory or look that reflects the style and personality of the man you love. Of course you want him to look the part! But remember, he will be happiest and therefore look most relaxed, if he’s wearing something he is comfortable in. And there is nothing worse than a groom looking utterly uncomfortable and unhappy, even in an immaculate suit!

What do you think? Can you see your groom rocking any of the above looks? There are plenty of ways, subtle and bold, to style your man vintage, so don’t despair if you can’t agree on one of these, keep looking until you find something you both love! You can find more Groom’s fashion here on Chic Vintage Brides, including the top 5 trends for 2014 and some dapper looks for an Autumn groom which you might want to take a look at.




Groomsman Attire

Basically, there are just two scenarios. One is, you are the groomsman or two is, you are the bride or the groom and you think about what you want your groomsman to look like.

Bride & Groom Do’s & Don’ts

Most of the time, the wedding couple will have some specific ideas about what they want.

  • Do provide very specific advice, and suggestions, and demands to your groomsmen. Tell them “I want you to wear this, and I don’t want you to wear that.” Because of that, they know exactly what to do and the chances that you’re going to be happy with the way it turned out is going to be very high. Think about to what degree you want them to match each other. Are they all supposed to wear exactly the same tuxedo? Or are you maybe okay with them just having the same bow tie, the same pocket square, or the same vest? For consistency, it can make sense to get the same accessories. Sometimes you can get, for example, a pocket square so everyone has a white one all the same or you can also give it to them as a grooms gift so it’s like 2 in 1. In our shop, we offer them with personalized initials so it’s not just a random pocket square but something that’s unique to each and every individual groomsman.

The groom and his groomsmen

  • Do make sure the groom is slightly different from all the groomsmen in the sense that he’s elevated. It’s the day of the bride and groom, therefore, you want those two to stand out. The bride usually has this wonderful dress, she’s beautiful. When as the groom, sometimes if he wears a tuxedo just like his groomsmen, can easily look the same. One way to do that is to have a pocket square in a different color or maybe a boutonniere in a different color. Let’s say, all the groomsmen wear something in white and the groom wears it in red. That clearly signals to everyone that this is the groom and it’s just a better way. It’s easy for people even from afar to see who he is and who he isn’t.

Great bonding experience for the wedding party

  • Do make it an experience. If you have time beforehand, you can take all your groomsman and go to a local barber where you can all get a wet shave and you can all enjoy the day together. It’s a bonding experience, it’s fun, and everyone is going to be cleanly shaven at the day. If budget is of no concern, either you or the groomsmen, or you take care of it, then you can invite them, for example, to have a custom suit made, maybe an online custom suit but just make it part of an experience and that way you can ensure everyone wears the things you like and it’s something that they can also wear after the wedding so it’s a good investment for them.

Groomsmen in tuxedos

  • Don’t wear rentals. I know, rentals are really popular for the wedding because if you want to wear a tuxedo, it seems very tempting to spend maybe just a $150, $200, or maybe just a $100 outfit that you otherwise would not wear again. However, usually, these suits are made of the cheapest materials. The goal is to have them dry cleaned very easily and be very hard to wear so they use nylon and polyester. Not only does it look very cheap but it also makes the wearers very hot because they sweat a lot and uncomfortable. Since they are not going to be comfortable, the pictures are not going to turn out as well and they look really terrible. Oftentimes, dated and the fit is usually off. Especially since not everybody has the same size so some people would have sleeves that are way too long, others have jackets that are way too long; it looks more like a clownish circus party than a well-dressed wedding party.

You can opt for a vest for your groomsmen

Either give them the option to wear a dark suit, a navy suit, or a charcoal suit, and you have to make sure that they all have the same one. You can say “Hey, now we all give you the same pocket square, or the same black and silver tie.”; that way you all look uniform.

Another good item to give to them is a vest because it usually has deeper cut armholes so you don’t have an issue with sleeve length and the only thing you have to worry about is the chest width and it’s easy to get that right.

Blue dress shirts for the groom and the groomsmen

  • Don’t wear colored shirts, especially the groom. Sometimes they are red, green, blue, turquoise, pink, purple, whatever the wedding theme color is. However, that’s just over the top. If you want to add some color, maybe play with the pocket square or the boutonniere flowers otherwise, go with a white dress shirt, it’s just formal and suits the event. Of course, it’s your wedding at the end of the day but I promise you, you’ll look back at your wedding pictures in ten years from now and ask yourself “What on earth was I thinking when I picked those red shirts?”. Just look at the pictures from prom and see what people wore back then. It’s probably not a time when you were really proud of what you’re wearing.

Don’t wear matching sets

  • Don’t make your groomsmen wear matching sets. My it be a bow tie or a tie or with a cummerbund or vest, maybe even a pocket square. That looks very cheesy and gaudy. So for a wedding, just get a tie maybe in a pattern, maybe in a color that’s okay, then a white shirt, white pocket square and maybe a boutonniere if you want and that’s all you need.



Groomsman Etiquette

Now, let’s assume you are the groomsman and you wonder what to wear. Well, your best option is to reach out to the bride and groom and figure out what it is that they want. Since you’re part of the wedding party, chances are, you know them quite well and you have a good understanding of how formal they are or what kind of wedding it’s going to be.

Obviously, you don’t want to embarrass yourself and you want to do whatever it is that they want you to wear. Now, personally, I hate wearing a rental tuxedo but if my best man wants me to wear that, I would swallow my pride and wear the damn thing simply because I want to make him happy and it’s his day. Keep that in mind, you are there for them and not the other way around.

Keep it simple

That being said, if you’re unhappy with the choices they make, it’s best to communicate that very early on in the process when changes can actually be made. Once all the other groomsmen have bought the same thing, you cannot just change everything without incurring a lot of costs. If you have an issue, bring it up at first. Definitely, don’t say anything the day of or close to the wedding, that’s just terrible behavior.

As the groomsman, you’re different than other guests but at the same time, you never want to make the groom or the bride look not as dapper as you or not as well dressed as you. Try to tone it down, try not to get all fancy with your tie knots or something that could make them embarrassed or feel like they are not the center of attention because that’s their day. Always go a notch down, otherwise, keep it simple.

Groomsman Attire

If they don’t say anything, wear a suit and communicate, that’s really the best thing you can do. If they don’t say anything and you can’t reach them, I would suggest going with a simple plain necktie nothing too bold something in silver or black, or a small subtle pattern. Not something in red or a bold color because it stands out too much. I’d go with a white pocket square with a white dress shirt and maybe a boutonniere but I would ask them specifically if they want that because traditionally, at weddings, that’s something at least the groom wears, maybe the father of the bride, maybe the father of the groom but sometimes, the entire wedding party. So that is definitely something you want to figure out because it can be considered off-putting to just wear a boutonniere when everyone else is not.

Black Captoe Oxford with gray and black dress shoelaces by Fort Belvedere

Also, don’t wear any extraordinary shoes that draw out too much attention. A black pair of cap toe oxfords is probably your best bet. Otherwise, definitely wear over the calf socks because no one would want to see your hairy calves at a wedding day which is usually quite formal so make sure you get over the calf socks that stay up all day even if you walk a lot.


To sum it up, your best route is to simply reach out to the bride or the groom so you don’t arrive over or underdressed. Keep in mind that by not going for a loud outfit, you are doing the bride and groom a HUGE favor. It’s their day, they should be the center of attention and not steal the spotlight by showing up looking too flashy.

How NOT to buy a wedding suit – Blog

If only grooms were half as careful in choosing wedding clothes as brides are! So far, this is far from it, so funny things happen all the time. We have compiled a top of ridiculous formal suits and tell you how to avoid mistakes in a wedding look.

Christmas tree costume